Happy Birthday Thommie Walsh

Tony Award winner Thommie Walsh
Two-time Tony Award winner Thommie Walsh
Two-time Tony Award winner Thommie Walsh
I originally posted this on March 15, 2011. I think of my funny, talented, and dear friend Thommie Walsh so often I can’t tell you. Today would have been Thommie’s 71st birthday. This is a very personal post for me, and so I share this each year to celebrate his beautiful spirit. Dear Thommie, love and miss you madly.

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Thommie Walsh was a 2-time Tony Award winner, an original cast member of the ground-breaking A Chorus Line, and my dear wonderful friend. Thommie came into my life in so many ways. As a young actor and dancer, I was forever changed by his performance in A Chorus Line. The boy who grew up near Buffalo but “couldn’t remember the name of the town” – he’d blocked it out. His work on Broadway was the stuff wide-eyed young actors or dancers like me only dreamed about. He danced in several Broadway shows – including A Chorus Line – and then graduated to director/choreographer. As Tommy Tune’s partner, he won two Tony Awards (A Day in Hollywood / A Night in the Ukraine; My One And Only). Thommie’s accomplishments and honors were many, too numerous to mention them all. But my favorite memory of Thommie was as my friend. In 2002, Donna McKechnie was asked to perform her then-developing one-woman show “Inside The Music” in Los Angeles. Thommie was her director and choreographer. The theater was a small theater on a budget, so Donna asked if Thommie could stay with me. Every day was a holiday with Thommie in the house. Having consulted on some of Donna’s earlier shows, I accompanied Thommie to rehearsals and assisted when I could. But just being around Thommie made life better and funnier and more wonderful. We became very fast friends. Thommie was immensely supportive of my work as a director and/or choreographer. Some years later, when I was choreographing a show off-Broadway, he insisted he come to see the show. Then he made a point of taking me to dinner at Joe Allens (famous Broadway restaurant) to talk about it. I’ll never forget the look in his eyes when he sat down, smiled, and simply said to me “you did good – I loved it.” His sense of humor, his directness in any situation, everything about Thommie worked for me. My wonderful, funny, talented friend. In late 2006, however, he stopped returning phone calls. I worried something was wrong. I reached out to everyone I could. At one point, on Christmas eve, I stood outside a holiday dinner in the freezing cold on the phone with a close friend of Thommie’s. The news was not good. I was distraught. I frantically asked the friend to keep me informed as his health deteriorated. News was very slow to come over the next several months. I did all I could to stay in the loop from across the country. Then, on a hot summer night – June 16, 2007 – this boy-wonder of Broadway was gone. I was riding in a car in Las Vegas when a friend called: “Did you hear about Thommie?” I held my breath in silence. I didn’t want to know. Several heartbeats went by. I’m dramatic – surely I’m wrong. Please let me be wrong. I wasn’t. My friend on the other end of the call was sad and silent. But, the news had come. Gone. But never forgotten. I remember Thommie’s birthday every year. March 15th – the Ides of March. From Julius Caesar – “Beware the Ides of March.” Beware indeed. He used his own birthday onstage in A Chorus Line as “Bobby” or “Robert Charles Joseph Henry Mills, III” as his introduction went. Just so dang funny. I would play his role in A Chorus Line several times, and I always thought of Thommie when I did. Near the end of his character’s monologue, he had a line that read, “I just wanted to see if anyone would notice me.” Boy, did the world notice Thommie. I miss Thommie often. His laugh, his humor, his talent, his friendship… all of it boundless. I’d love to regale you with some stories I lived with him, but they may not be suitable for this post. If you knew him, you know what I mean. If you don’t, then please know I hope someday you know someone like him so you will. Except there will never be another Thommie Walsh. Ever. And my eyes tear up with joy and sadness every time I know that. Thommie – how very lucky am I to have known you. I miss you. I always will. Thommie once advised me if you were going to steal, steal from the best. So, as Thommie would close his letters, from me to the fabulous Thommie Walsh: “Love you madly – always.”

InstaHunk Round-Up: Weekend Edition

Pierre Vuala

Pierre Vuala
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Checking in with the Hunks of Instagram this weekend. Wilhelmina model Pierre Vuala (above) had a good Sunday – hope everyone else did, too. I’ll admit I’ve always thought Max Emerson is a knockout. Turns out I’m right:

 

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Bruno Tarchetti gave you morning coffee eyes:

 

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Jim Newman decided to just hang around in Brazil:

 

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Billy Reilich got in some sports ball on the beach:

 

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Somehow my Chevron station attendant never looks like Arizona bodybuilder Jett Wayne:

 

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Curtis Fitzgerald, Doctor of Dental Medicine, reminds us the goal of all this is to be our own personal best.

 

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Brody Knows Star Quality When He Sees It

Brody became fascinated with seeing himself on TV

Brody became fascinated with seeing himself on TV
Brody was fascinated by seeing himself on TV
Checking in from Brody Land… The other night, Michael put a video of the Brody-O playing with Mama Scarlett on the TV in the master bedroom via Air Play. Brody heard the sounds of dogs playing, and when he turned to look he became fascinated by the image of two dogs on the screen. He stared so intently, and at one point you’ll see him almost lean into what he sees. It was like he was watching the ‘dailies’ of his life movie. He clearly knows star quality when he sees it.

“When Straight Men Sleep With Men It’s Not A ‘Gay’ Thing, It’s A ‘Guy’ Thing?”

Three men drinking beer doing 'guy things'
Three men drinking beer doing 'guy things'
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In a recent TikTok post, a sex therapist told viewers straight men can have sex with guys and still be completely straight.

Dr. Joe Kort, whose website says he has a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology, tells his TikTok followers “when straight men have sex with men, it’s not a gay thing, it’s a guy thing.”

Kort goes on to say that, in general, “men have more transactional sex with one another” while women don’t.

“So, when men have objectified sex where it’s just about the act, it’s just about getting off, people ‘man shame’ him,” adds Kort, who makes a point of noting he’s openly gay.

Underscoring his point, Kort says, “When straight men have sex with men, they’re still straight, it doesn’t erase heterosexuality any more than when gay men have sex with women. They’re still gay. It doesn’t erase their homosexuality.”

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The TikTok post received over 1,400 comments ranging from calling for Kort’s practice and license to be revoked to others agreeing with the good doctor saying they “completely get” what he’s saying.

Now, a straight guy having some kind of sexual encounter with another male doesn’t necessarily make him “gay.” We have other words – like “bisexual” – that could apply.

Certainly there are men who have sex just to get off and file that under “friction is friction.”

And then there’s the Kinsey scale which describes a person’s sexuality on a range of 0 (being exclusively heterosexual) to 6 (meaning exclusively homosexual). Folks can be a 1 or a 5, capable of “having sex” of some kind without feeling the emotional need for committed relationships with someone of the same or opposite sex.

Kort’s official website for his psychotherapy practice shares that he has “counseled thousands of sexually confused men over the years.”

But Kort’s comment section was filled with calls of “denial” and “nonsense.”

Watch the clip and let us know what you think, readers.

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InstaHunk Round-Up: Weekend Edition

Fitness model Dan Tai (via Instagram)

Checking in to see how the Hunks of Insta are doing this fine weekend.

First up, Dan Tai (above) was just happy to get to the weekend and was looking forward to some self-time. We know how you feel, Dan…

Olympic diver Tom Daley is doing his dolphin thing at the aquatic center keeping his eye on the upcoming Olympics:

 

 

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Actor Luke Evans is considering becoming a doggie daddy:

 

 

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Carson Tueller has been killing at the gym and has a message for the fitness industry:

 

 

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DJ (and Daddy Wolf) Thiago Oliveira reminds us to hydrate after a workout:

 

Bruno Tarchetti threw out a Insta-costume change:

 

 

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Ryan Shea: More Than A Name

Ryan Shea (all photos via Facebook)
This took……time……to process. On Friday, my friend and Instinct Magazine colleague Ryan Shea, 34, lost his battle with COVID-19. It’s been a very emotional two weeks since Ryan told us all he’d been diagnosed. After a difficult three days at home, he was hospitalized and in two days he was intubated. Just nine days later, it was over. Thankfully, Ryan was sedated for most of the harrowing journey. While Ryan’s passing is very raw and painful to acknowledge, I do want to share a few things. Over the past year, I’ve covered a lot of the coronavirus pandemic. I’ve reported on the naysayers, the ‘it’s just another flu’ crew, and the ‘Karens’ who refuse to believe the danger of this horrible virus. I’ve had close friends contract COVID-19 and tell me how it ‘kicked their ass’ as they were laid up at home in bed for 2-3 weeks. I’ve seen several versions of the disease’s many iterations. At this writing, the U.S. has seen 497,577 deaths from the coronavirus. Ryan is now among those. And his battle with coronavirus was ugly. In addition to being on a ventilator for the majority of his time in the hospital, there was kidney failure, lung damage, brain damage, low low blood pressure and more. This is how nearly 500,000 Americans died from COVID. It wasn’t ‘like the flu.’ Fuck that nonsense.
Ryan on the red carpet before the 2019 GLSEN Awards
I will miss Ryan more than I can express here. For almost three years, I’ve worked with Ryan on a nearly-daily basis. He was brash, sassy, and passionate about his work. My last exchange with him was after he shared with the Instinct staff he’d tested positive. I immediately began texting him about multi-vitamins and any supplements that might help him. I’d read a study that a majority of COVID patients had a Vitamin D deficiency, so I told him to run get some. He stopped me texting back, “Can we pick this up later? I’m transcribing my interview with Bianca Del Rio (heart emoji).”
Ryan loved Chipotle burritos
My first week working for Instinct I quickly learned Ryan loved Chipotle burritos, loved all kinds of gay men, and worked hard to love himself in a world that doesn’t encourage us to do that very often. Ryan was also curious, tempestuous, opinionated, and often usually unfiltered. He was filled with the drive of someone who enjoyed what he did. And along the way, his work, his byline, his name was read by literally millions of people. He had an unerring eye for what popped in pop culture.  He thrived as an entertainment journalist, and he LOVED interviewing folks on the red carpet.
Ryan Shea interviewing Meryl Streep on the red carpet
Ryan Shea interviews Vanessa Williams on the red carpet
There’s a lot more to Ryan, and a lot more Ryan the world won’t get to experience. He was a loving son, brother, uncle and friend. In a testament to his journey here, a GoFundMe campaign organized to help his family with end of life expenses exceeded its goal in less than 10 hours. But in his short time on the planet, his impact was felt. And seen. And heard. And read. Ryan didn’t hold back. He stepped up, stepped out, and contributed more than a name. Fly high Ryan Shea.

Dolly Parton Gracefully Declines Tennessee Capitol Statue

International superstar Dolly Parton is writing a Broadway m

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The Tennessee state legislature has been working on passing a bill that would install a statue of country music legend Dolly Parton on the grounds of the state Capitol. So far, the legislation has been approved by a state House committee on February 9. But Parton gracefully asked the lawmakers to remove the bill from consideration (for now) saying she is “honored and humbled by their intention” but feels “given all that is going on in the world, I don’t think putting me on a pedestal is appropriate at this time.” She added that “somewhere down the road several years from now” or after she’s gone, “if you still feel I deserve it, then I’m certain I will stand proud in our great State Capitol as a grateful Tennessean.” Parton closed her message promising she’ll “continue to try to do good work” to make her home state proud. And I have no doubt that she will. #ClassAct

Demi Lovato’s New Docu-Series ‘Dancing With The Devil’

Actress and pop star Demi Lovato
Actress and pop star Demi Lovato
Actress and pop star Demi Lovato (screen capture)

Actress and recording artist Demi Lovato premiered the trailer for her upcoming YouTube Originals documentary series, Demi Lovato: Dancing with the Devil, on Wednesday.

The four-part series takes a deep dive into not only the circumstances that led up to her nearly fatal drug overdose in 2018, but the effects it had on Lovato’s life after being hospitalized.

In a voiceover, Lovato explains she’s had “so much to say over the past two years wanting to set the record straight about what it was that happened.”

Friends and family taking part in the docu-series express their surprise that Lovato really wants to go there.

One friend exclaims, “I can’t believe y’all are doing this.”

Another: “Are we talking about heroin? Are we doing that?”

Elton John
Elton John in ‘Dancing with the Devil’

International pop-star Elton John, who knows a few things about fame and addiction, appears in the preview telling the audience, “When you’re young and you’re famous – my god it’s tough.”

In a candid disclosure, the 28-year-old reveals she had three strokes and a heart attack in the hospital.

“I was left with brain damage, and I still deal with the effects of that today,” she told reporters during a Television Critics Association panel on Wednesday. “I don’t drive a car because I have blind spots on my vision.”

“And I also for a long time had a really hard time reading,” she adds. “It was a big deal when I was able to read out of a book, which was like two months later because my vision was so blurry.”

Lovato, who came out as sexually fluid in 2018, shares that hosting The Ellen DeGeneres Show last year “was the catalyst for my need and desire to express myself and my story to the fullest extent.” “I knew that one appearance on a television show wasn’t going to cut it, I was not going to be able to share my whole story in one interview whether it was with a magazine or whatever it is,” continued Lovato. “That’s why I wanted to turn it into a documentary.”

Demi Lovato
Demi Lovato in ‘Dancing with the Devil’ (screen capture)

Speaking to PEOPLE Magazine, the singer acknowledged that despite the difficult aftermath of the overdose being a painful journey, looking back today she “wouldn’t change a thing.”

“I get sad when I think of the pain that I had to endure to overcome what I have, but I don’t regret anything.”

“I’m so proud of the person I am today,” she added. “And I’m so proud that people get to see it in this documentary and I couldn’t be more grateful that I had someone by my side.”

The pop star has released two previous documentary films. Demi Lovato: Stay Strong in 2012 after her first stint in rehab, and Demi Lovato: Simply Complicated in 2017 which chronicled her struggles with bi-polar disorder and continuing addiction. Demi Lovato: Dancing with the Devil premieres March 23 on YouTube.

Tyler Posey: ‘You Really Feel Like An Object’ On OnlyFans

Teen Wolf star Tyler Posey
Teen Wolf star Tyler Posey
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Just months after launching an OnlyFans account, actor Tyler Posey (Alone) says the experience has been “bizarre” and “draining” (no pun intended).

“It’s really, sort of mentally draining,” Posey shared in an interview with E!’s The Rundown.

”You really feel like an object on OnlyFans. I’m trying my hardest to be artistic as possible with the content I put out ’cause I don’t want it to just be porn, you know? That’s not what I do and I don’t want to take it away from the people that are doing that.”

The 29-year-old added, “I just want to be artistic and stay in touch with my fans.”

 

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Posey launched his OnlyFans account in September 2020 in part, he says, because he wanted to start embracing his body.

“I’m nude a lot and I wanted to be more open-minded about social media, so I just started posting,” he told his ex-girlfriend Bella Thorne in a candid video chat.

“I love being nude because… you’re not born wearing clothes, so I want to go out the same way that I came in,” he continued. “I want to die naked, and since 2020 has been a little scary, I feel I could die any second now, so I want to be ready.”

That said, Posey does have boundaries when it comes to sharing his nakedness. “If I’m going to be somewhat nude, I want to not take myself seriously and be kind of funny.”

“I just can’t pose naked and take myself seriously,” he added. “It’s weird, it feels stupid, I feel like an object. I’m still figuring out my footing in it and we’ll see where it goes.”

 

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The former Teen Wolf star also shared in the new interview that he’s explored sexual role-play as a way to gain confidence in the bedroom but it usually leaves him “self-conscious and a little embarrassed.”

“It’s never been done for me, it’s always been done for my partner,” he said. “So I’m not always wanting to role play that hard, but I’m always down for it.”

Speaking of being down for things, last fall Posey opened up to his social media followers explaining that he considers himself somewhat pansexual and “has hooked up with guys.” He explained his coming out in an interview on SiriusXM’s The Jason Ellis Show. “I woke up one morning and I saw all this stuff on Instagram about these transsexual women who were being beaten and harassed, and there were a bunch of people that were filming the whole entire interaction and laughing at them,” Posey told Ellis. “Originally I was just shedding light on that, through whatever way that I could,” he added. “And, then I was hit with wanting just to come out myself with that whole thing and be honest about it.”

A few days later, Posey was even more forthright during a Q&A with his OnlyFans followers. Let’s hear it for brevity!

News Round-Up: February 15, 2021

Fitness trainer Adrian Aguilar handles a wild Covidiot with amazing calm (screen captures)
Some  news items you might have missed: • LGBTQ Nation: The Mississippi state Senate passed a bill to ban transgender girls and women from competing in school sports by a vote of 34-9 late last week. Nine senators voted “present” or did not vote at all. • Instinct Magazine: I admit I’m not the biggest expert on RuPaul’s Drag Race, but watch Denali walk away with this lip-sync battle. Poor Kahmora was stuck in a tight dress and couldn’t bring much to the battle.

• Washington Blade: Following President Biden’s reversal of the transgender military ban, trans service members welcome the opportunity to serve openly. • Calendars:  A new calendar, On Fire: The Firefighters of France, is a sexy homage to firefighters, spotlighting the proud members of fire squads from all over France, who have discarded their helmets and gear to flash their best smiles and flex their muscles. Photographer Fred Goudon honors firefighters in a new calendar out February 16 • AP: Dr. Anthony Fauci has been awarded $1 million by the Israel-based Dan David Foundation for “defending science” and advocating for vaccines now being administered worldwide to fight the coronavirus pandemic. • Washington Post: An Atlanta-area prosecutor plans to scrutinize a post-Election Day phone call between Sen. Lindsey O. Graham (R-S.C.) and Georgia Secretary of State Brad Raffensperger as part of a criminal investigation into whether Donald Trump broke Georgia laws while trying to reverse his defeat in the state. • Kenneth-in-the-212: Talk about COVID nutjobs… fitness trainer (and Broadway veteran) Adrian Aguilar (top photos) had this wiiiiiiiild encounter with a male ‘Karen’ in Chicago when he asked the guy (later identified as Austin Tony Myers) to mask up per current pandemic guidelines. The guy goes nutso, starts poking a very calm Aguilar, and trying to escalate things even further. The police were called, and Myers tried to say HE had been assaulted. But with several gym members recording the encounter plus security cameras, officers eventually (the incident lasted hours) arrested Myers for assault and trespassing. You can read the full account here.