Major Biden Back At White House

Major Biden in the Oval Office

Major Biden in the Oval Office
Major Biden in the Oval Office (image via White House)
Look at what a good boy Major Biden is after spotting a tennis ball on the Resolute Desk in the Oval Office as President Biden chats nearby. You may have heard Major had a bit of a ruff start at the White House when he got a bit aggressive with a Secret Service agent. But after going through some training back in Delaware for a few weeks, he returned with the president and First Lady Jill Biden to the White House this week. According to the president, the 3-year-old rescue was just startled by an unfamiliar person in his new home. “You turn a corner, and there’s two people you don’t know at all,” Biden told Good Morning America. “And he moves to protect.” Biden made it clear that Major didn’t bite or penetrate the skin in the incident. An American success story, Major is the first dog to go from rescue shelter to the White House.

Just Because: You Want To See This Baby Squirrel Drink Water

I’m catching up on a lot of chores around the house and wanted to share this serene Sunday moment. Because you really want to see a man give water to a baby squirrel. The squirrel is so calm and trusting. Take a second and just breathe with this.

My Favorite Thing Today: ‘My Turn’

Young man on the phone

Young man on the phone
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I recently came upon a Twitter thread from 2019 that literally made me stop and catch my breath. On March 4, 2019, one Twitter user asked the question: “What is the kindest thing a stranger has done or said to you?” Several stories were posted, but this one, from Joe in Chicago, stood out for obvious reasons. A phone call to an LGBTQ book store from a confused young man results in a tribal instinct to protect by taking ‘that call.’

Happy Birthday Thommie Walsh

Tony Award winner Thommie Walsh
Two-time Tony Award winner Thommie Walsh
Two-time Tony Award winner Thommie Walsh
I originally posted this on March 15, 2011. I think of my funny, talented, and dear friend Thommie Walsh so often I can’t tell you. Today would have been Thommie’s 71st birthday. This is a very personal post for me, and so I share this each year to celebrate his beautiful spirit. Dear Thommie, love and miss you madly.

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Thommie Walsh was a 2-time Tony Award winner, an original cast member of the ground-breaking A Chorus Line, and my dear wonderful friend. Thommie came into my life in so many ways. As a young actor and dancer, I was forever changed by his performance in A Chorus Line. The boy who grew up near Buffalo but “couldn’t remember the name of the town” – he’d blocked it out. His work on Broadway was the stuff wide-eyed young actors or dancers like me only dreamed about. He danced in several Broadway shows – including A Chorus Line – and then graduated to director/choreographer. As Tommy Tune’s partner, he won two Tony Awards (A Day in Hollywood / A Night in the Ukraine; My One And Only). Thommie’s accomplishments and honors were many, too numerous to mention them all. But my favorite memory of Thommie was as my friend. In 2002, Donna McKechnie was asked to perform her then-developing one-woman show “Inside The Music” in Los Angeles. Thommie was her director and choreographer. The theater was a small theater on a budget, so Donna asked if Thommie could stay with me. Every day was a holiday with Thommie in the house. Having consulted on some of Donna’s earlier shows, I accompanied Thommie to rehearsals and assisted when I could. But just being around Thommie made life better and funnier and more wonderful. We became very fast friends. Thommie was immensely supportive of my work as a director and/or choreographer. Some years later, when I was choreographing a show off-Broadway, he insisted he come to see the show. Then he made a point of taking me to dinner at Joe Allens (famous Broadway restaurant) to talk about it. I’ll never forget the look in his eyes when he sat down, smiled, and simply said to me “you did good – I loved it.” His sense of humor, his directness in any situation, everything about Thommie worked for me. My wonderful, funny, talented friend. In late 2006, however, he stopped returning phone calls. I worried something was wrong. I reached out to everyone I could. At one point, on Christmas eve, I stood outside a holiday dinner in the freezing cold on the phone with a close friend of Thommie’s. The news was not good. I was distraught. I frantically asked the friend to keep me informed as his health deteriorated. News was very slow to come over the next several months. I did all I could to stay in the loop from across the country. Then, on a hot summer night – June 16, 2007 – this boy-wonder of Broadway was gone. I was riding in a car in Las Vegas when a friend called: “Did you hear about Thommie?” I held my breath in silence. I didn’t want to know. Several heartbeats went by. I’m dramatic – surely I’m wrong. Please let me be wrong. I wasn’t. My friend on the other end of the call was sad and silent. But, the news had come. Gone. But never forgotten. I remember Thommie’s birthday every year. March 15th – the Ides of March. From Julius Caesar – “Beware the Ides of March.” Beware indeed. He used his own birthday onstage in A Chorus Line as “Bobby” or “Robert Charles Joseph Henry Mills, III” as his introduction went. Just so dang funny. I would play his role in A Chorus Line several times, and I always thought of Thommie when I did. Near the end of his character’s monologue, he had a line that read, “I just wanted to see if anyone would notice me.” Boy, did the world notice Thommie. I miss Thommie often. His laugh, his humor, his talent, his friendship… all of it boundless. I’d love to regale you with some stories I lived with him, but they may not be suitable for this post. If you knew him, you know what I mean. If you don’t, then please know I hope someday you know someone like him so you will. Except there will never be another Thommie Walsh. Ever. And my eyes tear up with joy and sadness every time I know that. Thommie – how very lucky am I to have known you. I miss you. I always will. Thommie once advised me if you were going to steal, steal from the best. So, as Thommie would close his letters, from me to the fabulous Thommie Walsh: “Love you madly – always.”

InstaHunk Round-Up: Weekend Edition

Pierre Vuala

Pierre Vuala
Pierre Vuala (image via Instagram)
Checking in with the Hunks of Instagram this weekend. Wilhelmina model Pierre Vuala (above) had a good Sunday – hope everyone else did, too. I’ll admit I’ve always thought Max Emerson is a knockout. Turns out I’m right:

 

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Bruno Tarchetti gave you morning coffee eyes:

 

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Jim Newman decided to just hang around in Brazil:

 

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Billy Reilich got in some sports ball on the beach:

 

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Somehow my Chevron station attendant never looks like Arizona bodybuilder Jett Wayne:

 

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Curtis Fitzgerald, Doctor of Dental Medicine, reminds us the goal of all this is to be our own personal best.

 

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Brody Knows Star Quality When He Sees It

Brody became fascinated with seeing himself on TV

Brody became fascinated with seeing himself on TV
Brody was fascinated by seeing himself on TV
Checking in from Brody Land… The other night, Michael put a video of the Brody-O playing with Mama Scarlett on the TV in the master bedroom via Air Play. Brody heard the sounds of dogs playing, and when he turned to look he became fascinated by the image of two dogs on the screen. He stared so intently, and at one point you’ll see him almost lean into what he sees. It was like he was watching the ‘dailies’ of his life movie. He clearly knows star quality when he sees it.

“When Straight Men Sleep With Men It’s Not A ‘Gay’ Thing, It’s A ‘Guy’ Thing?”

Three men drinking beer doing 'guy things'
Three men drinking beer doing 'guy things'
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In a recent TikTok post, a sex therapist told viewers straight men can have sex with guys and still be completely straight.

Dr. Joe Kort, whose website says he has a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology, tells his TikTok followers “when straight men have sex with men, it’s not a gay thing, it’s a guy thing.”

Kort goes on to say that, in general, “men have more transactional sex with one another” while women don’t.

“So, when men have objectified sex where it’s just about the act, it’s just about getting off, people ‘man shame’ him,” adds Kort, who makes a point of noting he’s openly gay.

Underscoring his point, Kort says, “When straight men have sex with men, they’re still straight, it doesn’t erase heterosexuality any more than when gay men have sex with women. They’re still gay. It doesn’t erase their homosexuality.”

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The TikTok post received over 1,400 comments ranging from calling for Kort’s practice and license to be revoked to others agreeing with the good doctor saying they “completely get” what he’s saying.

Now, a straight guy having some kind of sexual encounter with another male doesn’t necessarily make him “gay.” We have other words – like “bisexual” – that could apply.

Certainly there are men who have sex just to get off and file that under “friction is friction.”

And then there’s the Kinsey scale which describes a person’s sexuality on a range of 0 (being exclusively heterosexual) to 6 (meaning exclusively homosexual). Folks can be a 1 or a 5, capable of “having sex” of some kind without feeling the emotional need for committed relationships with someone of the same or opposite sex.

Kort’s official website for his psychotherapy practice shares that he has “counseled thousands of sexually confused men over the years.”

But Kort’s comment section was filled with calls of “denial” and “nonsense.”

Watch the clip and let us know what you think, readers.

A group of guys doing 'guy things'
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InstaHunk Round-Up: Weekend Edition

Fitness model Dan Tai (via Instagram)

Checking in to see how the Hunks of Insta are doing this fine weekend.

First up, Dan Tai (above) was just happy to get to the weekend and was looking forward to some self-time. We know how you feel, Dan…

Olympic diver Tom Daley is doing his dolphin thing at the aquatic center keeping his eye on the upcoming Olympics:

 

 

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Actor Luke Evans is considering becoming a doggie daddy:

 

 

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Carson Tueller has been killing at the gym and has a message for the fitness industry:

 

 

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DJ (and Daddy Wolf) Thiago Oliveira reminds us to hydrate after a workout:

 

Bruno Tarchetti threw out a Insta-costume change:

 

 

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Ryan Shea: More Than A Name

Ryan Shea (all photos via Facebook)
This took……time……to process. On Friday, my friend and Instinct Magazine colleague Ryan Shea, 34, lost his battle with COVID-19. It’s been a very emotional two weeks since Ryan told us all he’d been diagnosed. After a difficult three days at home, he was hospitalized and in two days he was intubated. Just nine days later, it was over. Thankfully, Ryan was sedated for most of the harrowing journey. While Ryan’s passing is very raw and painful to acknowledge, I do want to share a few things. Over the past year, I’ve covered a lot of the coronavirus pandemic. I’ve reported on the naysayers, the ‘it’s just another flu’ crew, and the ‘Karens’ who refuse to believe the danger of this horrible virus. I’ve had close friends contract COVID-19 and tell me how it ‘kicked their ass’ as they were laid up at home in bed for 2-3 weeks. I’ve seen several versions of the disease’s many iterations. At this writing, the U.S. has seen 497,577 deaths from the coronavirus. Ryan is now among those. And his battle with coronavirus was ugly. In addition to being on a ventilator for the majority of his time in the hospital, there was kidney failure, lung damage, brain damage, low low blood pressure and more. This is how nearly 500,000 Americans died from COVID. It wasn’t ‘like the flu.’ Fuck that nonsense.
Ryan on the red carpet before the 2019 GLSEN Awards
I will miss Ryan more than I can express here. For almost three years, I’ve worked with Ryan on a nearly-daily basis. He was brash, sassy, and passionate about his work. My last exchange with him was after he shared with the Instinct staff he’d tested positive. I immediately began texting him about multi-vitamins and any supplements that might help him. I’d read a study that a majority of COVID patients had a Vitamin D deficiency, so I told him to run get some. He stopped me texting back, “Can we pick this up later? I’m transcribing my interview with Bianca Del Rio (heart emoji).”
Ryan loved Chipotle burritos
My first week working for Instinct I quickly learned Ryan loved Chipotle burritos, loved all kinds of gay men, and worked hard to love himself in a world that doesn’t encourage us to do that very often. Ryan was also curious, tempestuous, opinionated, and often usually unfiltered. He was filled with the drive of someone who enjoyed what he did. And along the way, his work, his byline, his name was read by literally millions of people. He had an unerring eye for what popped in pop culture.  He thrived as an entertainment journalist, and he LOVED interviewing folks on the red carpet.
Ryan Shea interviewing Meryl Streep on the red carpet
Ryan Shea interviews Vanessa Williams on the red carpet
There’s a lot more to Ryan, and a lot more Ryan the world won’t get to experience. He was a loving son, brother, uncle and friend. In a testament to his journey here, a GoFundMe campaign organized to help his family with end of life expenses exceeded its goal in less than 10 hours. But in his short time on the planet, his impact was felt. And seen. And heard. And read. Ryan didn’t hold back. He stepped up, stepped out, and contributed more than a name. Fly high Ryan Shea.

Dolly Parton Gracefully Declines Tennessee Capitol Statue

International superstar Dolly Parton is writing a Broadway m

International superstar Dolly Parton (image via Instagram)
The Tennessee state legislature has been working on passing a bill that would install a statue of country music legend Dolly Parton on the grounds of the state Capitol. So far, the legislation has been approved by a state House committee on February 9. But Parton gracefully asked the lawmakers to remove the bill from consideration (for now) saying she is “honored and humbled by their intention” but feels “given all that is going on in the world, I don’t think putting me on a pedestal is appropriate at this time.” She added that “somewhere down the road several years from now” or after she’s gone, “if you still feel I deserve it, then I’m certain I will stand proud in our great State Capitol as a grateful Tennessean.” Parton closed her message promising she’ll “continue to try to do good work” to make her home state proud. And I have no doubt that she will. #ClassAct