Olivia Newton-John: LivWise Cookbook

Featured this week on The Advocate’s ‘Hot Sheet’ of things not to be missed:

Livwise: Easy Recipes for a Healthy, Happy Life
Ever wonder why Olivia Newton-John, at 62, still looks so fit, healthy, and luminous? Nutrition is at least partly responsible. The iconic superstar and self-proclaimed breast cancer “thriver” has compiled recipes and mouthwatering photos of some of her favorite dishes from Gaia, her Australian heath retreat for her first cookbook (Lyons Press, $27.50). Royalties from the book will benefit the Olivia Newton-John Cancer and Wellness Centre in her hometown of Melbourne, Australia.

All proceeds go to the Olivia Newton-John Cancer and Wellness Centre in Australia

Order it here.

Look for Olivia on these TV shows:

April 26 – Good Morning America

April 26 – CNN Showbiz Tonight
April 27 – The Chew

April 27 – Fox Business News

April 27 – Fox & Friends

April 27 – Good Day New York

April 27 – New York Live 

School suspends 17 year old cancer survivor for growing hair to donate

A charter school near Flint, Michigan is refusing to make an exception for a 17-year-old leukemia survivor who is growing out his hair to donate to other cancer patients.

Officials at Madison Academy in Burton suspended J.T. Gaskins over a week ago after they determined that his hairstyle violated the school’s policy.

At the age of 8 weeks old, Gaskins was diagnosed Infant Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia. After years of chemotherapy, he was declared cancer free in 2003.

“I fought cancer my entire life; I’m going to keep fighting this,” he told The Detroit News. “I’m not going to not give back just because my school says no.”

Gaskins’ mother, Christa Plante, launched a petition on Change.org that had over 45,000 signatures by Tuesday afternoon.

“[J.T.] has decided to give back to commerate his Journey and success, and has decided now is the time, to give back, his decision is to grow his hair out and donate to other children and families battling the same fight he did,” she wrote.

“Female students can grow and donate their hair, yet boys cant not, we’re asking for an ammendment to this policy, my son has now been kicked out of school, until he agrees to cut his hair, we are simply asking for compromise and to allow not only my son, but anyone wanting to donate to be allowed to do so, to allow the boys the same rights and freedoms as the girl students.”

More at RawStory.com

Ethan Zohn: “Keep Moving Forward”

I met Ethan two years ago as I was ending my own cancer journey.

Not to be flip, but the label “survivor” is more than appropriate for this guy. He beat his cancer once, and I have no doubt his heart and spirit will win again.

I think it’s important for people in the public eye like Ethan to make these kinds of PSAs so those coping with challenges like cancer can put a “face” on strength and victory.

Go Ethan!

And thank you.

MRI and CT-PET scan

So it’s been two years since I was declared “all clear” from my cancer journey.  Hooray!

That’s the good news.  I love good news.

The “not so great” news is once a year I have to go in for an MRI and a CT/PET scan.  Ugh.

For the CT/PET scan I have to not eat the morning of, arrive early so a radioactive isotope can be injected into my system, and then wait for about 30 minutes while that circulates through me.  Then we do the actual test which means being slid into a machine like the one above for about 20 minutes.

For the MRI – completely different test – I show up another day and get slid into a machine similar to the one above BUT it’s like 15 feet long and I go ALL THE WAY into it.  The tube is barely big enough to get me in and VERY claustrophobic.  The inside of the tube is about 6 inches from my nose.  Last time I did it, I couldn’t do it.  I had to come back a few hours later after taking a valium and have a friend drive me.

In the end, a small price to confirm that I’m still in remission.  But I still don’t like it.

Onward.

It never ends

Sigh.

I’ll start with that.

42 years ago today my birth mother passed away. Of cancer. I never forget the date. Ever.

I refer to my birth mother because I was always aware of the fabulous women she sent to watch over me after she was gone. Truly I was blessed to have the women around me who make me who I am today.

I just heard from a friend that his friend is going into surgery within hours for her cancer.

As the child of a cancer victim, and as a cancer ‘thriver’ myself (two years past my own journey), sometimes it takes a long, heavy sigh to accomodate these moments.

On Facebook there’s a campaign called “I wish Cancer would get Cancer and die”. I couldn’t agree more.

The cancer journey is truly like a bad movie. It’s unreal, surreal, long and incredibly scary. It’s not a funny Seth Rogen movie that has a funny, happy ending.  It’s tough.  I won’t sugar coat it.

I was lucky. I know it every day.

But a lot of people have much more difficult roads to travel with this insidious thing.  I met them in the hospital, I watched their incredible courage.

My mother was one of those people. I was so young I don’t remember much about my birth mother except she fought hard. And was beautiful.

I like to joke I got one of those qualities from her. And it’s not my sexy looks.

While October is “Breast Cancer Awareness” month, let’s think about all those who are fighting cancer. Period.

Let’s all think some good thoughts their way.

I’ll end this with my favorite picture I have of my parents.  My mother is gorgeously stylish, and my dad looks like the stud he was.  This was right before her battle began.  This is how I think of her.

Let’s all think of those fighting the good fight in those fabulous times before the fight.  They are still those same people.  They just have a little more on their plates.

I’m on their side. Every day.  I’m up for that. It’s the very least I can do.

No fear.

Man fired after wife gets cancer

As a cancer survivor myself, I was extremely aware of the health care debate that went on during my cancer journey, and continues on today.

Here’s a heart-breaking story that underlines why you can’t rely on “the kindness of strangers” at work to do the right thing when disaster strikes.  My heart goes out to Carl and his wife Kathleen.

From AOL Jobs: Massachusetts accountant Carl Sorabella had every reason to believe that his employer would grant his request for a more flexible schedule so that he could assist his wife, who had just been diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer and given only months to live. After all, he’d been with Haynes Management in Wellesley, for 13 years, and had just been given a raise in November.

But instead of a more accommodating schedule, he got a pink slip in response to his request, even though he had made it clear that he was willing to work nights and weekends to make up for the time he intended to spend taking his wife in for treatments and tests.

“It shocks me,” said Kathleen, Sorabella’s wife of 23 years. “People are supposed to help each other. I guess corporate America is different.”

Sorabella was sure that he would be able to arrange a more flexible schedule — after all, he was head of the accounting department at Haynes, and had been with the company almost 14 years. But he says that his boss was afraid that if Sorabella wasn’t there during regular business hours it could cause problems.

“It’s business. I’m running a company here, and I need to make sure the department runs,” she told him. Sorabella said that he assured her that he would see that the company runs well, working at any hour of the day or night to make up for the time he spent caring for his wife, but to no avail.

No one from Haynes Management has been available for comment, but in an email to WCVB reporter Susan Wornick, Vice President Mary Butler wrote, “this is a private personnel matter and we are not going to comment publicly.”

Harsh treatment for a dedicated, longtime employee. Unfortunately, Sorabella has no legal recourse. Federal and state laws that protect workers from this kind of treatment only apply to larger companies with more than 50 employees.

For now, Sorabella is on unemployment, and his wife is on disability. But the two have always been fighters, and have faith that they can get through this together. Kathleen was homeless when they first met. Sorabella was a bus driver and found her sleeping in the back of his bus. The two have accomplished much since then.

After they got married, he earned an accounting degree, she set up a homeless shelter and earned bachelor’s and master’s degrees in social science, the latter which she just completed three years ago. She’s still paying off her $60,000 student loan.

Both her cancer, and her treatment, are aggressive. Colon cancer had spread to her lungs when they found it, and doctors were able to remove the main tumor, along with part of her colon, including 10 inches of intestine. They’re hoping the chemo will take care of the more than 55 nodules in her lungs.

Sorabella’s COBRA payments for his health plan were too expensive, but the couple still has minimal coverage from his wife’s disability. She had been employed as a social worker in the prison system.

Sorabella is still looking for work as an accountant — he says that he’ll take part-time — anything he can find. But after they get through this and his wife recovers — and they’re confident she will — he’d like to go back to school and get a nursing degree.

Happy Anniversary, Happy Anniversary…

Today is my 2 year anniversary of my cancer diagnosis. The above picture was taken a couple of weeks before the “cancer journey” began.  I looked at this picture practically everyday knowing I’d “get back there” eventually.  Plus I like my hair in this picture.

For folks who may not know, April 7, 2009 I was diagnosed with non-Hodgkins Lymphoma. The good news is the disease was Stage 1 and I kicked it’s ass. The bad news at the time was it kind of didn’t matter – Stage 1 or not – six rounds of chemotherapy were in my future.

The first thing I said to Michael was “well, it’s going to be a shitty summer.”

In the end, I look back at a roller coaster ride and the many things that came out of the experience. First and foremost, my appreciation for the life and health I’ve had in the past and the fact that I’m still here. Until you go through something like this yourself or with a very close loved one, you think you understand it but it’s really at arm’s length. I constantly felt like I was stuck in a bad TV movie.

I’ve also met and listened to and spoken to every cancer patient and survivor that crosses my path.  I always have time to listen and let them know “no, you’re not crazy – it sucks – but you’ll get there.”

During the journey, I only told a few friends who had to deal with my day to day.  In my mind, I couldn’t put this huge thing on friends who were across the country and already had full plates.  It felt selfish.

Below is a Note I posted on Facebook the night of my last chemo round, plus a couple of pictures from “the ride.”  It was in this note that I finally shared the journey with my friends.  I wanted to share it again on my anniversary:

SUMMER ADVENTURE 2009 or “Everything You Never Needed To Know About Cancer”

Well, it’s about time… I finally put this all down regarding my Summer Adventure 2009, or as I got used to saying “Everything You Never Needed to Know About Cancer.”

In Early April of this year I was diagnosed with non-Hodgkin Lymphoma. A routine medical test (my first “over 40 test” as I called it) discovered what would be the beginning of a surprising, unexpected, sometimes uplifting and often depressing chapter of my life. However, this is NOT a “woe is me” story. I just felt a strong urge to share this with all my friends who have not known what’s been going on in my life this summer. For most of you, when we’ve spoken or emailed and you’ve asked how I am, “great” was about as far as I could go with this tale.

I also want my friends to know this kind of thing can happen to us, and we then face it and move on stronger than before. 🙂

How I Got Here

After first meeting with an oncologist in Las Vegas whose office was too cold, sterile and not conducive to healing, plans were reassessed. Olivia Newton-John, who is a friend and client of Michael’s, asked how my first appointment went in Las Vegas, and when we related the lack of healing “environment”, she reached out and made sure I had an appointment with the head of oncology at Cedar Sinai Hospital in Los Angeles – which became my home away from home for the past five months. I have to applaud the world class treatment I received at the Cancer Center there.

Olivia uses the word “journey” in describing the cancer adventure. I couldn’t pick a better word. Hills and valleys, ups and downs, long days to long nights and then dawn again. It’s a step by step kind of thing. I really want to share a bit about “my journey.”

The Bad Things:

Ok, there are a lot, but I don’t and won’t dwell too much on those things. I’ve been lucky – not too many side effects along the way.

I did lose my hair two weeks into it all but it will grow back – although I miss it everyday. It’s just about the only physical attribute I’ve ever liked about myself. 🙂

Thanks to all the anti-nausea and pre-meds they pump me full of before each round, I never got too sick. I did go through a lot of fatigue. Just collapsing fatigue. That made days and nights very long sometimes. Restless nights. Seconds crawled by. Dawn would never come it seemed.

The drugs also me very bloated most of the time. It was, and still is, hard to look in a mirror. Not in a vanity way – I just don’t recognize the guy I see.

The one major side effect I’ve hated the whole way has been numbness in my hands and now my feet due to one of the drugs in my chemotherapy. I’m told it will “probably” go away but will take 6-9 months once I’m done. I couldn’t button a shirt or write a note or type for a long time. Now I’m kind of ignoring it. Check back in 6 months and cross your fingers – I really want the feeling to come back….

The Good Things:

Are there good things in cancer? Maybe not. But the journey does remind you of some great things in your life. And in this case, those would be the friends who were a part of the “great adventure.” No over dramatizing here, but I wouldn’t have made it without them.

I made a choice early on not to make this whole thing too public. Not because I felt shame or attached some negative connotation to the disease. But it felt selfish thinking I would add to my friend’s already “full plates.” To tell friends that I wouldn’t see on a day-to-day basis anyway – well, that just felt selfish and self centered.

One other reason about not sharing this sooner: especially in the beginning I simply was not able to take more than one phone call a day or answer more than one email. My energy level was so low, I had to make the decision to keep things to my self for a while out of self-preservation. No reflection on any of you.

I knew I would be fine and I knew I would tell you all someday after all of this. And with long distance, there was nothing you all could do but worry. And I couldn’t do that to you. I wanted to save that energy for you all to tend to your lives, and also for us to celebrate this day that I finish my “great walk.”

Some friends, however, I speak with daily, and there was no getting around sharing with them. And they are my heroes.

Olivia Newton-John, besides being a world famous pop music icon and humanitarian/advocate for cancer since her own bout 17 years ago, became my patron saint of the journey. Emails, notes, voicemails, phone calls – it seems she checked in on me just at the right time, giving amazing encouragement to me to keep putting one foot in front of the other. She confirmed aspects of what she had gone through, almost to say “no, you’re not crazy – it’s not fun, but you can do it.” Her CD “Grace and Gratitude” played on my iPod almost every day. She is more special than the world truly knows.

Usually, I rarely could muster walking to the kitchen. But on the very last days ending a recovery period before a new round of chemo, I almost had a normal sense of energy. One day after round four, I put some Oleta Adams music on. And as the song “Window Of Hope” came on, I started to dance a bit around the kitchen. It took me a minute to even recognize it was happening. It was a very moving moment to reconnect to a part of me – dancing – that I hadn’t felt in so long. I eventually wrote her manager a note to share with her about my “window of hope” that I felt. Oleta herself emailed me the most wonderful letter saying “You danced because you let go of any delusions about your present condition (good or bad) and enjoyed where you were at that moment. And yes, you were ‘smiling in your liver!” I’ve loved her music, voice and writing for so long. To hear from her was magical.

John Genovese was with me at my first “outpatient” chemo-treatment. I had no idea what to expect and it was a six hour infusion process before I left with a portable chemo pump (I eventually named “Bumpy”). John sat with me and handled the whole episode with such confidence. Confidence I only pretended to have. More than once, because my husband Michael had to travel on business to keep our household going, John stayed with me in L.A., cooked for me, and drove me through the desert back to Las Vegas because I couldn’t do it alone. Hero.

Matt Zarley never missed a round of this with me. Whether it was dinners or lunches or going to a movie (something I rarely could get through physically) Matt was always checking on me, texting me, emailing me, sending me new music to listen to, getting me out of the house…. Telling Matt face to face about my diagnosis was one of the most emotional moments I’ve ever experienced in my life. Perhaps one of the only times I cried as I said the words “I’ve been diagnosed with cancer.” He never flinched. He just knows me. He’s my little brother and this time he carried me.

John Bell and David Burke are my best friends from high school. John, a police officer in Texas and David, a fireman in Washington state. John had major back surgery the day I had my second round of chemo. Both of us wanted so badly to be where the other was. But we had to be in our respective states getting the treatments we needed. From John’s bedside in Texas, David was checking in on me. John came out of anesthesia asking how I was. They both have honored me with giving me space to heal but also being in contact long distance, asking questions, sending good thoughts and planning a reunion in Las Vegas for us after all this.

I didn’t tell Carlye Hughes, my family of 30 years, because she carries so many people through life. She’s the Rector of her own Episcopal church, and in addition to helping her congregation on a daily basis, her niece Gabrielle was diagnosed with cancer two days before me. My first instinct was not to add to her plate. It just felt selfish. Her plate was too full already. And with the certainty that I’d be fine, I decided early on that I would tell her after this was all over. But after one round, I just couldn’t hold this back. Sometimes you just need someone.

At the end of my first round, with confidence that I would be fine, I called her. Shock and silence on her end. OMG, I knew it might be selfish to tell her. I asked her not to come to the west coast. Too many other people needed her. Two weeks later she was on my couch in L.A. for my first “out patient” round. I was knocked out, fatigued, and she was the answer. For four days we just watched TV, she cooked my favorite foods from childhood, and talked. And that made all the difference. Sometimes your best friend being on the other end of the couch is the greatest medicine in the world. Carlye is my greatest medicine. Always.

And finally, there’s my husband Michael – my rockstar. There’s not enough room anywhere to express how he got me through this. What I can say is he made this about me at all times. Even though he was carrying the household and working 14 hour days in the absence of my income, he never complained. He constantly asked me to just “go lay down and get better.” That was his mantra. Dawn would come and I would get up to find the whole house cleaned and put together so I would have “order in my chaos.” He made everyday about my recovery. Whether sleeping in a chair in my hospital room in between working on his computer, to driving me to the hospital – sometimes at 4am because “Bumpy” the chemo-pump was malfunctioning and we had to go get it fixed. He’s just a rockstar. No other words. Thank you god for Michael.

The End:

The words “full remission” have been spoken. But treatment/checkups will continue for a few months still to monitor and make sure I’ll be fine.

Up one hill, coast down another. One foot in front of the other.

Then, one more dawn. One more day. One day more.

Me and Bumpy, the chemo pump.  Looks like I have bad taste in handbags, doesn’t it?

My wristbands from each time I went to the hospital
Doctors diagnose, nurses heal.  JoEllen, my chemo nurse.  Bless her.  This was my last day of chemo.

It Ain’t Chemo – amazing grassroots cancer support

This morning, Kevin Hoyt, founder of It Ain’t Chemo, appeared on The Morning Blend TV news show with MMA fighter Ryan Couture and Chris Irwin (owner of The Gun Store) to help publicize their fund raising event here in Las Vegas tomorrow AND to get the word out about the amazing work that It Ain’t Chemo does.

It Ain’t Chemo is a 501(C)3 non-profit organization that provides cancer patients with comfort and care supplies, advice, and emotional support.

I personally met Kevin early last year as I was just finishing my own journey with cancer. He’s engaging, has a terrific sense of humor, compassionate and has a natural sense of leadership that is evident in all he does with this incredible foundation.

Short story about the name of the organization: Kevin is a firefighter. One day – after his own battle with cancer – at the end of a particularly hard day at work, his boss asked him how he was and Kevin responded “hard day – but it ain’t chemo.” And it stuck. His fellow firefighters started using the phrase and it led Kevin to start this organization that does so much for so many on a very personal level.

So there you have it kids – a firefighter, a cancer thriver, and a great sense of humor. This is how it’s done. A great example of how some people not only give back, but find new ways to create opportunities to do more.

I really invite everyone who reads this to go to the It Ain’t Chemo website, find out more about what they do, and how you can donate or contribute in someway.