50 Years Ago Today…

My mother, Joyce Ann Slovacek
I found out an old friend is coping with a cancer journey today. We began chatting on FB, then moved to actual phone calls. Having done my cancer journey in 2009, I always stop to swap stories from the chemo front lines… It’s just a thing you do when you’ve been there. Along the messages today, I looked up and saw it was October 13. That date…it always sticks in my mind. And then I recall – my mother passed away on October 13, 1969, from cancer. Fifty years ago today. I was 6-years-old at the time. So many amazing women were sent by the universe to raise me. And I’m cognizant of that fact every day. I want to be clear that this isn’t meant as a morose kind of post. Just a memory. The reason why we have photographs. I do have fleeting memories of my mother, way back then…and a couple of photos 🙂 She looks like she’d totally be sassy, amiright?

InstaHunk Round-Up: 4th Of July Edition

Lou Moreira (via Instagram)
Checking in with some of my favorite InstaHunks to see how they spend the star-spangled holiday. First up, Lou Moreira – bodybuilding champ and 82nd Airborne war veteran – is getting his grill on with classic Independence Day dining (above). Bearded bro Joe Blizzard is giving you authentic ‘holiday heat’ Michigan-style. https://www.instagram.com/p/Bzf3MD7nAUn/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Over at Instinct Magazine, they’re celebrating balls, bats and the ‘boys of summer:’ https://www.instagram.com/p/Bzellqkhsvm/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Paleontologist Francesc Gascó cools down after a workout: https://www.instagram.com/p/Bzf1BgCIJ7u/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Happy Independence Day, folks!

Observing Memorial Day 2019

Wishing everyone a great holiday weekend, and I hope that folks take some time out to remember why we celebrate this day as a nation. It's not "National BBQ Day" you know. Think of those we've lost who stood up for, and made possible, our freedoms and liberty here in the U.S.

Wishing everyone a great holiday weekend, and I hope that folks take some time out to remember why we celebrate this day as a nation. It’s not “National BBQ Day” you know. Think of those we’ve lost who stood up for, and made possible, our freedoms and liberty here in the U.S. A few facts about Memorial Day: • Memorial Day is a federal holiday that occurs every year on the last Monday of May. • Memorial Day is a day of remembering the men and women who died while serving in the United States Armed Forces, formerly known as Decoration Day. • Memorial Day typically marks the start of the summer vacation season, while Labor Day marks its end. • Memorial Day is not to be confused with Veterans Day. Memorial Day is a day of remembering the men and women who died while serving, while Veterans Day celebrates the service of all U.S. military veterans. The average age of fallen U.S. soldiers is 26½. The New York Times reports that Arlington National Cemetery is running out of room and may need to consider new rules that may turn away eligible soldiers.

The First Memorial Day

How the black community brought about the first Memorial Day in 1865, then called "Decoration Day."

Via Think Progress:

According to Professor David Blight of Yale University, the first Memorial Day took place on May 1, 1865 in Charleston, SC, after a group of African-Americans, mostly former slaves, gave 257 Union soldiers a proper burial.

The black community in Charleston then consecrated the new cemetery with “an unforgettable parade of 10,000 people,” led by 3,000 black school children.

It was initially called “Decoration Day.”

InstaHunk Round-Up: Weekend Edition

(Ignacio Pérez Rey)

Let’s start this weekend edition of InstaHunk Round-Up with Ignacio Pérez Rey (above), who is giving you Elia Beach fierceness over in Mykonos, Greece.

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InstaHunk Round-Up

It’s the first weekend in June (Pride Month) which makes this a holiday weekend in my book! Here’s some eye-candy to enjoy this gorgeous Saturday. Let’s kick off with Petr Hollesch, who’s Czech like me, hanging out in his backyard like me, gay like me… and that might be where our similarities end 🙂 Happy Pride, folks!

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And how about the cutest gay couples on Instagram finally meeting? Justin and Nick meet PJ and Thomas. Awww… 🙂

Happy Pride month everyone! We kicked it off yesterday by finally meeting our friends @justinickpgh in real life (after 3+ years of being friends on Insta) and we couldn’t think of a more appropriate way to celebrate. Growing up, we all felt kind of different didn’t we? Like we couldn’t relate to the people around us because they didn’t understand and they weren’t gay. Now that we’re older, we realize the importance of having gone through those scary years and the freedom in celebrating who we are as flawed, queer men who want the same things that everyone wants: love, acceptance, and to make connections with those around us. Queerness comes in so many different forms and backgrounds, like pretending the Barbies you bought when you were younger were for your sister so no one would make fun of you, or quitting ballet and playing basketball instead so people wouldn’t get suspicious. This month is for all of us: out and proud or still in the closet, the people who fought and paved the way to get to where we are today and the people who will continue to fight for the future. Let’s do this y’all! #pridemonth #lgbtq #pride #lgbtqia
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New Book: Explaining To Kids Why Their Uncle Has A Boyfriend ‘Rainbow Relatives’

Whether you have your own questions as you prepare to come out to your kids, or you aren’t sure how to explain to nieces and nephews why their uncle has a boyfriend, or why their friend has two mommies, author Sudi (Rick) Karatas’ new book Rainbow Relatives can help. With an entertaining approach to educating yourself and your peers about the issues and topics surrounding the LGBTQ community, Rainbow Relatives will help in prepping for the answers to kids’ questions and help adults raise kids to be open-minded and accepting adults. This is the book that will help you approach those vitally important conversations and predict what you can expect from them. The idea for the book came from a real-life phone call between Karatas and his sister. He asked if his niece and nephew knew that their uncle was gay. Her response? “I’m not sure; I think so. I don’t know how to talk to them about it, I wish there was a book on that…” Ding ding ding! Karatas shares a variety of stories, such as that of a Mormon woman’s transition from fighting against gay rights to becoming a crusader for them. Also included are the voices of filmmakers, actors, musicians, mental health professionals, and more. Through Rainbow Relatives, Karatas helps parents support, advocate for, and educate their children, relatives, and family friends. Check out author Sudi (Rick) Karatas and Rainbow Relatives below: