According to the study, published in the journal Psychology of Sexual Orientation, 66 percent of gay and bi males aged 13-18 are out to their mothers. Forty-nine percent indicated they are out to their dads.
This is a huge change from the 1990s when just 40 percent of adolescent boys were out to their moms and less than 30 percent were open about their attractions with their dads.
The numbers come from a survey of 1,194 Generation Z boys (born between 1998 and 2018) with same-sex attractions.
The data also shows different factors – religion, identity, race – can play a part in terms of who is more comfortable being out with their parents.
Not surprisingly, those who come from a more religious background are less likely to be out than those less religious.
White survey participants were more likely to be out than Black respondents.
And those who identify as gay were more comfortable in being open with their parents than bisexual male teens or those less sure of their sexuality.
Lead author David A. Moskowitz, Ph.D., said in a statement that this information can help psychologists understand what factors “move teenagers to share this type of information with those closest to them.”
Moskowitz noted in the study that there’s more work to be done (like doing a similar survey among females in the same age group), but added, ”We can now compare these practices with how other generations deal with these issues and think about what it all means for future generations.”
In a recent TikTok post, a sex therapist told viewers straight men can have sex with guys and still be completely straight.
Dr. Joe Kort, whose website says he has a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology, tells his TikTok followers “when straight men have sex with men, it’s not a gay thing, it’s a guy thing.”
Kort goes on to say that, in general, “men have more transactional sex with one another” while women don’t.
“So, when men have objectified sex where it’s just about the act, it’s just about getting off, people ‘man shame’ him,” adds Kort, who makes a point of noting he’s openly gay.
Underscoring his point, Kort says, “When straight men have sex with men, they’re still straight, it doesn’t erase heterosexuality any more than when gay men have sex with women. They’re still gay. It doesn’t erase their homosexuality.”
The TikTok post received over 1,400 comments ranging from calling for Kort’s practice and license to be revoked to others agreeing with the good doctor saying they “completely get” what he’s saying.
Now, a straight guy having some kind of sexual encounter with another male doesn’t necessarily make him “gay.” We have other words – like “bisexual” – that could apply.
Certainly there are men who have sex just to get off and file that under “friction is friction.”
And then there’s the Kinsey scale which describes a person’s sexuality on a range of 0 (being exclusively heterosexual) to 6 (meaning exclusively homosexual). Folks can be a 1 or a 5, capable of “having sex” of some kind without feeling the emotional need for committed relationships with someone of the same or opposite sex.
Kort’s official website for his psychotherapy practice shares that he has “counseled thousands of sexually confused men over the years.”
But Kort’s comment section was filled with calls of “denial” and “nonsense.”
Watch the clip and let us know what you think, readers.