Elder Gays Offer Advice About Life & Love

Queerty reached out to some “elder gays” (men over 50) and asked them about things they wished they’d known earlier about love, life, sex, and relationships.

Older gay gentlemen offer 15 life lessons to their younger gay counterparts – https://t.co/ssiy9EjM8e

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Here’s just a sample of the advice those wizen gays handed down. I have to say I agree with every point raised. Click here for the full list. 1. Don’t forget your friends “When you are dating, don’t forget to maintain your close friendships. Friends often endure beyond romantic relationships. But they too require nurturing and maintenance.” (Dominic Davies, of UK-based Pink Therapy) 2. Own your sexuality “Don’t be embarrassed to tell sex partners what you like doing in bed, or to ask for the sex you want. As gay men, we’re often taught to feel ashamed of our sexual desires, and that can leave many of us forever challenged when it comes to saying what we do and don’t enjoy.” (Anon.) “Learn what turns you on and discuss that with your partner. Then explore more things to add to the list. Erotic pleasure is infinite, there is no need to be bored if you share your active imaginations!” (Dominic Davies) 3. Stay safe “Have as much sex as you want with whoever you want and never feel guilty about it… but always be safe. There’s no sex so mind-blowing it’s worth risking your health for. And if someone tries to persuade you to be unsafe, that should be a reason to leave.” (SG) 4. Prioritize the right people “Prioritize people who wish to prioritize you: not those who treat you as an option.” (DK) 5. Support others and they’ll support you “Challenge prejudice and discrimination even when it isn’t aimed at you or people like you. Racism, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia and, yes, even ageism, are toxic, depriving people of opportunities to fulfill their potential. Our enemies seek to divide us. Don’t let them. Support others and you will be supported by others.” (Matthew Hodson, Executive Director, NAM / aidsmap) Click over to Queerty for the full list of wisdom.