Shawn Mendes Catches Flack For Declining To Help Young Fan Come Out To Parents

Shawn Mendes (image via Instagram)

Pop star Shawn Mendes is catching some flack on the interwebs after a fan asks him to help here come out to her parents.

During a July 14 Q&A in Oakland, California, a fan asked if Mendes would record a ‘coming out’ video to her parents as she wanted to share with them that she identifies as bisexual.

“I’m bisexual and I haven’t told anybody, but my parents are very strict and I don’t know how to tell them so I was wondering if you could do a little video,” said the fan.

Mendes declined, but for a very good reason.

“This is what I want to tell you, your parents are your parents,” said Mendes. “They’re going to love you no matter what you say, no matter how you say it, no matter how you look when you say it, any time of the day.” 

Unfortunately, that’s not quite true as we know many young people come out as LGBTQ and are often rejected by their families. Many studies show that up to 40% of homeless youth are LGBTQ who were kicked out of their homes after coming out.

“Nothing I say is going to mean anything that is even close to what you saying it means to them,” continued Mendes. “You’re their world. I cannot possibly come close to the amount of joy and happiness that they’re going to feel when they find out that you’re telling them your truth and your honesty.” 

He added, “I would if I thought that it was a better thing to do, but I know in my heart that it’s not. I know your parents are going to love you even more for being honest with them.”
Some folks felt Mendes appears out of touch for his complete confidence that all will be well for the young girl. But that’s what comes from a straight person who’s never had to face the reality of coming out.

But at the end of the day, coming out really is one of the most personal and empowering acts an LGBTQ person will ever do for themselves. Asking a young pop star to put a ‘seal of approval’ on the girl’s coming out isn’t likely to impact the parents.

“Hey – your kid is bisexual! Have a great day!”

I appreciate that Mendes seemed genuine and sincere in his response, and recognized the personal nature of coming out. 

Gus Kenworthy’s 3-Way “Sean Cody” Tweet With Shawn Mendes & Colton Haynes

Shawn Mendes, Colton Haynes and Gus Kenworthy(image via Twitter)

Olympic skier Gus Kenworthy was crushing hard on pop star Shawn Mendes as he attended last night’s iHearRadio MMVAs this weekend.

The event, which celebrates the year’s best in music videos, brought the hunky Olympic silver medalist face to face with his celeb crush, Mendes, on the red carpet.

Before the fun, though, Kenworthy shared a totally swoon-worthy pre-game pic in a white fluffy robe complete with chest fur:

While traveling to the awards, Gus shared the amped-up anticipation of seeing his fave pop star at the event:

A short time later – there he was, Shawn Mendes, on the red carpet. Kenworthy couldn’t help himself as he took a profile creeper shot of the singer, who was nominated for 8 awards at the event, by the way. #NotTooShabby

It wasn’t long before Kenworthy shared a selfie that broke gay Instagram as he posed with Mendes and what appeared to be a photobombing Colton Haynes.

Gushing Gus snapped that shot and sent it out onto the Twitterverse with the logo for porn company Sean Cody in the corner and the caption, “New video coming soon!”

On Instagram, Kenworthy shared the same pic but with a different message, shooing Haynes away from the scene, writing, “COLTON GET OUT OF OUR ENGAGEMENT PHOTO!!!”

A post shared by gus kenworthy (@guskenworthy) on Aug 26, 2018 at 4:58pm PDT

Now, in case you’re wondering where Kenworthy’s hunky boyfriend Matt Wilkas was in all this tongue-wagging, Kenworthy assured us there’s room in his life for both Wilkas and Mendes as she shared a pic of all three together with arrows labeling Wilkas “boyfriend” and Mendes “husband.”

A post shared by gus kenworthy (@guskenworthy) on Aug 26, 2018 at 8:26pm PDT

While Mendes has told the world he’s not gay, he is an ally and clearly happy to join the hi-jinks.

Thanks to Gus and the guys for letting us in on the fun.

(all images via Gus Kenworthy social media)