Gay Ex-Mormon Recalls Life-Altering Decision To Lose ‘Magic Underwear’

Dr. Jake Jacob (image via Instagram)

Dr. Jake Jacob, an openly gay physician, recently reflected on social media about his process of severing ties with the Mormon Church specifically his decision to stop wearing his ‘temple garments.’

Posting a photo clad in just a white t-shirt and briefs, the beefy doc shared with his 278K Instagram followers that it has been 12 years since he decided to stop wearing the ‘magic underwear’ noting “it made no sense since I was having sex with men which is a mortal sin against the Mormon church’s teachings.”

But rather than a sad moment of reflection, Jacob recalls the decision as “life-altering physically, emotionally, and spiritually.”

“It was my last physical reminder, for good or bad, of my ties to childhood religion,” he continued. “It was liberating for my body to finally remove the oppressive clothing that insisted I always stay covered instead of celebrating the body God gave me.”

For the hunky 39-year-old, shedding the garments represented discarding unnecessary shame and self-loathing that he’d carried for years about who he was and a part of himself that he “can’t and shouldn’t change.”

“It was a necessary step in overcoming years of conversion therapy that taught me I was broken and somehow God was supposed to fix me if I was righteous enough, an ever-moving impossible goal post,” he added.

Jacob also recalled the feeling of “sliding into my sheets without any clothes the first night I felt freedom I’d never experienced before.”

Being able to choose how he presented his body to the world began “a journey of loving my own body, embracing my flaws, of actually looking in the mirror and choosing to like what I see without guilt or forced ‘humility’ which I now know was the quest for impossible constant perfection of body and mind.”

The result was the beginning of loving himself “for who I am independent of a higher power’s approval or acceptance of my peers.”

With good and bad days in the rearview mirror, Jacob’s focus now is on the gratitude he feels having journeyed towards self-acceptance.

“I’m grateful I took a chance stepping into the unknown discovering a life I never dreamed could be so fulfilling,” he writes in closing.

The good doctor offers more than just eye-candy on his social media, although he’s clearly built AF.

Check out some other recent posts below and follow the body-conscious Jacob on Instagram here for more of his posts.

Podcast: Trolls Bungle Fake Buttigieg Smear, Mormon Valedictorian Comes Out At Graduation; 2019 Tony Award Nominations

In this week's podcast:  • GOP trolls attempt to smear Mayor Pete Buttigieg  • A valedictorian at Brigham Young University comes out during his graduation speech  • The president of Brazil told gays not to come to his country  • Disney cancelled its award-winning LGBTQ-inclusive series Andi Mack  • The 2019 Tony Awards nominations are out including a Special Tony Award for Judith Light for her LGBTQ advocacy  All that and more in this episode of The Randy Report podcast.

In this week’s podcast:

• GOP trolls attempt to smear Mayor Pete Buttigieg

• A valedictorian at Brigham Young University comes out during his graduation speech

• The president of Brazil told gays not to come to his country

• Disney cancelled its award-winning LGBTQ-inclusive series Andi Mack

• The 2019 Tony Awards nominations are out including a Special Tony Award for Judith Light for her LGBTQ advocacy

All that and more in this episode of The Randy Report podcast.

Podcast: Netanyahu Says No, Don Lemon Says Yes, Chasten Buttigieg Makes A Splash, And Don’t Miss ‘Fosse/Verdon’

In this week’s podcast:

• Israel’s Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu says ‘no’ to LGBTQ activists

• The Mormon Church reverses on LGBTQ parents & children

• Chasten Buttigieg makes a splash in Texas

• Sean Hayes is production a new animated series about a gay super spy

• CNN’s Don Lemon gets engaged

All that and more in this episode of The Randy Report.

Hit the play button below. And if you enjoy the podcast, please share the link with your friends!

Happy Sunday, everyone!

Mormon Church Reverses – Announces Children Of LGBTQs Can Be Baptized

The Mormon Church, aka the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, has announced a reversal of its 2015 policy and will allow the children of LGBTQ parents to be baptized.

The Mormon Church, aka the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, has announced a reversal of its 2015 policy and will allow the children of LGBTQ parents to be baptized.

Beginning immediately, LGBTQ parents will be able to request a blessing for their child or children.

At the age of eight, a Church member will contact the parents and propose that the child have a baptism.

“Effective immediately, children of parents who identify themselves as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender may be baptized without [governing] First Presidency approval,” the church posted on its website, “if the custodial parents give permission for the baptism and understand both the doctrine that a baptized child will be taught and the covenants he or she will be expected to make.”

The announcement for the new policy was made at the Church’s 189th Annual General Conference in Salt Lake City today by President Dallin Oaks.

While certainly good news, the Church’s position on same-sex marriage will remain unchanged with gay Mormons being expected to remain celibate.

The church’s doctrine will remain that having same-sex attraction is not a sin, but acting on it is.

However, the Mormon church will no longer label same-sex couples “apostates.” An apostasy is the abandonment of a religious or political belief or principle.

The church added that the shift in policy positions come, in part, as an effort “to reduce the hate and contention so common today.”

This all comes on the heels of the Governor of Utah signing a new, tougher hate crimes law to help, in part, address anti-LGBTQ violence.

The Trevor Project’s Sam Brinton, Head of Advocacy & Government Affairs, issued this statement in support of the change in policy:

”The Trevor Project welcomes any faith group’s public commitment to treat the LGBTQ community fairly and equally, and this statement by the LDS Church to change course is a move in the right direction that will make a real difference in the lives of LGBTQ Mormons. We hear from LGBTQ young people in crisis every day who struggle to reconcile being part of both the LGBTQ and faith communities, and decisions to end policies of exclusion can help LGBTQ youth feel seen, loved, and less alone.”

The Trevor Project is the world’s largest suicide prevention and crisis intervention organization for LGBTQ young people.

And Zeke Stokes, Chief Programs Officer for GLAAD, tweeted this:

BYU’s ‘Cosmo The Cougar’ Comes Out In Op-Ed

Charlie Bird with ‘Cosmo the Cougar’

Charlie Bird, who performed as the Brigham Young University mascot Cosmo the Cougar from 2015-2018, came out recently in a touching essay for Deseret News.

For those of you who haven’t seen Bird’s amazing performances as Cosmo, check this out:

In his coming out story, Bird shares that behind the mask of Cosmo, he felt ‘invincible.’

My senior year as Cosmo was unforgettable. It was thrilling to watch fans around the globe share Cosmo’s newest dance video, which garnered hundreds of millions of views across social media platforms. I performed live on ESPN at the College Football Awards, and NBC Sports dubbed 2017-2018 the “Year of the Mascot” in honor of Cosmo’s viral influence. When I was Cosmo, I felt invincible.

As scary as it seemed to dance in front of 60,000 people, an even scarier thought often crept into my mind — “If they knew who I really was, would they hate me?”

I wore another mask while I was at BYU — a mask to cover the shame I felt for being “different.” For years I pleaded with God to change my sexual orientation, but after returning to BYU from a full-time mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I began realizing that being gay is an integral part of who I am. As I grappled to develop a better understanding of myself, I felt immense pressure to hide my sexual orientation. I was hyper-aware of what some of my peers said about the gay community, how they viewed same-sex attraction and the often unkind and insensitive words they used to describe LGBTQ people — people like me.

The same community that made me feel like a superstar often simultaneously made me feel broken, unloved and defective.

Bird notes that during his senior year, BYU was ranked as the second-most LGBTQ-unfriendly college in the United States, based on student responses to a Princeton Review survey.

Imagine all those folks cheering for you, and traveling the country proudly representing a school and community that held a clearly negative view of who you are as a person.

It’s a good read. Click here for the full essay.

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News Round-Up: November 16, 2015

Uzo Aduba as “Glinda The Good Witch” in The Wiz Live! (Photo: Scott Gilmore)

Some news stories you may have missed:

• Get your first look at the stars of The Wiz Live!

• Hacker group Anonymous declares war on ISIS following the terrorist attacks on Paris.

• 1,500 Mormons officially leave LDS Church after announcement of new policy that children of same-sex couples cannot be members of the faith until they reach the age of 18, leave their parents home and disavow the practice of same-sex relationships,

• Ireland’s marriage equality law takes effect today. Marriages begin tomorrow after the normal mandatory 24 hour waiting period.

• Pastor Steven Anderson spent Sunday sermonizing that when you go to a rock concert in Paris – “somebody might get killed,” because you’re “worshipping death.”

• 19 states say they will not accept Syrian refugees following Friday’s terrorist attacks in Paris.

Mormon Dad Gets Choked Up That His Son Doesn’t Hate Gays Enough

Quin Monson, a professor at Brigham Young University, a former scout and father of a current Boy Scout, spoke to NPR radio recently about the Boy Scouts of America’s recent decision to lift the ban on gay scout leaders.

“The (Mormon) church took the Boy Scout program and decided its values and mission aligned closely enough with that of the church’s program for young men that they just wholesale adopted it,” Monson said. “Basically, if you are a young Mormon male, you join the Boy Scouts.”

Bu the new policy by the BSA doesn’t sit well with Monson even if he can’t articulate what exactly bothers him about it.

“The BSA statement allows for leaders who are openly gay and what that means in practice is, I don’t think, exactly clear. But I think that it very well could conflict with the church’s own policy which is, ‘You can identify as gay and be an active, faithful member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.’ The problem is acting on that same-sex attraction, so there’s a distinction between actions and orientation.”

Monson actually sounds despondent and chokes up when he explains that his son just doesn’t see the problem with allowing gay scout leaders. Isn’t that supposed to be a good thing? When children don’t embrace the biases and bigotry that’s come before them?

Manson explained how a chat with his son went regarding having openly gay scout leaders went something like this:

“He’s a pretty deep thinker, and a thoughtful kid, but his reaction was, ‘Well, I don’t see why it matters, dad. Why is this such a big deal?'” Monson explained.

“That’s the hard part about all of this is that it impacts a group of young men who don’t necessarily understand why,” Monson said, getting choked up.

You can listen below. The “emotional” moment comes at around the 3:20 mark.

Utah: State Senate Approves LGBT Protections Bill By A Vote Of 23-5

By a vote of 23-5, Utah’s GOP-controlled state Senate advanced an anti-discrimination bill that would protect LGBT folks regarding housing and employment, but would also allow religious people to express their beliefs. The bill has the support of the Mormon Church.

The legislation now moves to the state House.

Republican Gov. Gary Herbert has indicated he will sign the bill should it reach his desk.

Utah: Mormon Church Offers Support For LGBT Protections – On One Condition

At a press conference held at Mormon Church headquarters in Salt Lake City, members of the Church’s top tier promised to support anti-discrimination protections for the LGBT community – with one condition.

For their support of LGBT non-discrimination laws, the Mormon Church wants LGBT activists and the government to back off.

“When religious people are publicly intimidated, retaliated against, forced from employment or made to suffer personal loss because they have raised their voice in the public square, donated to a cause or participated in an election, our democracy is the loser,” said Elder Dallin Oaks, a member of the church’s Quorum of Twelve Apostles.

“Such tactics are every bit as wrong as denying access to employment, housing or public services because of race or gender.”

The Mormon church is one of several religious groups to complain about religious freedom coming under “attack” in recent years. The Catholic church and Southern Baptists, among other evangelicals, have sounded the alarm as well.

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“It is one of today’s great ironies that some people who have fought so hard for LGBT rights now try to deny the rights of others to disagree with their public policy proposals,” said Oaks.

While offering this conditional support, the Mormon Church says it will not change it’s position on same-sex marriage.

Openly gay state Sen. Jim Dabakis issued this statement via press release:

“I am proud that the LDS Church has seen fit to lead the way in non-discrimination. As a religious institution, Mormons have had a long history of being the victims of discrimination and persecution. They understand more than most the value and strength of creating a civil society that judges people by the content of their character and their ability to do a job.”

“Since serving as a Senator, and as the only LGBT member of the Utah legislature, I can say one of the joys of the job has been to meet and enjoy the company of LDS officials. I know that together, we can build a community that strongly protects religious organizations constitutional liberties and, in addition, creates a civil, respectful, nurturing culture where differences are honored and everyone feels welcome.”

“Now, lets roll up our sleeves, get to work and pass a statewide Non-Discrimination Bill.”

NFL star Steve Young asks LGBT Mormons to “be patient” as church evolves

NFL Hall of Famer Steve Young and his wife Barbara addressed LGBT Mormons at a conference in Utah yesterday asking them to be patient as the Mormon Church evolves to greater acceptance of gays and lesbians:

“More and more people are opening their hearts every day,” Barbara Young said at the 2013 International Affirmation Conference at the University of Utah, The Salt Lake Tribune reports. “You are teaching them about [gays] and Jesus and that his love is infinite.”

Steve Young, a former San Francisco 49ers quarterback and a member of the Pro Football Hall of Fame, said he seeks, “to build bridges with my gay brothers and sisters. We need to see each other as Jesus sees us.”