News Round-Up: August 15, 2018

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 Some news items you might have missed:

• InstaHunk Julio Morales is happy to get to 38 in one piece. What was a birthday you felt proud of?

• A gay couple shared bloody pics of themselves after a homophobic attack in Belgium.

• Hot men took over the Red Dress Run this year and it was New Orleans fab!

• If you ever want to see a Fox News host yell at a Trump supporter, this may be your chance. Fox’s Ed Henry called Katrina Pierson out for lying on-air the day before about Omarosa’s allegations that Trump used the N-word.

• Twitter finally suspended InfoWars‘ Alex Jones for inciting violence. But just for a week…

• The latest Omarosa bombshell – Trump covets his daughter, Ivanka. #Oy

• Is there a Designing Women reboot in the near future?

• As an effeminate gay actor, Corey Camperchioli was once teased for his feminine traits. Then he made a film project about it as he wears his femininity as a badge of honor.


News Round-Up: November 10, 2017

Alex Abramov likes Autumn

Some news items you might have missed:

• Woofy Instahunk Alex Abramov (above) is enjoying NYC’s autumnal weather. I’m enjoying the view.

• A new study of 21,000 children shows no increased emotional or psychological difficulties among children raised by gay or lesbian parents.

• One of the gay men who was refused a marriage license by anti-LGBT Kentucky county clerk Kim Davis says he may run against her in the 2018 election.

• A survey of more than 5,000 Attitude Magazine readers shows 71% of gay men say they are turned off from dating another if they have shown signs of femininity; 41% said that effeminate gay men give the gay community a bad image or reputation.

• Former Scissor Sisters frontman Jake Shears has announced he’ll be joining the cast of the hit Broadway musical, Kinky Boots.

• I’ll close out this round-up with some Friday Superfruit “Fantasy,” the new music video from OUT100 2017 honorees Scott Hoying and Mitch Grassi.

The video features a make-believe pool party, a trip to Paris, plus a cameo by K-pop star Amber Liu and some blue-wigged dancers. The tune, from the duo’s debut album Future Friends, is totally bopping. Dance into the weekend with Superfruit below.

Russell Tovey Is “Baffled And Saddened” Over Response To “Effeminate” Comments

Russell Tovey, out actor and current star of HBO’s Looking, took to Twitter last night to address a atatement he made in an interview with The Guardian in which he expressed gladness that his father didn’t allow him to attend a famous acting school because it helped “toughen” him up and possibly avoid being “really effeminate.”

“I feel like I could have been really effeminate, if I hadn’t gone to the school I went to. Where I felt like I had to toughen up,” Tovey said. “If I’d have been able to relax, prance around, sing in the street, I might be a different person now. I thank my dad for that, for not allowing me to go down that path. Because it’s probably given me the unique quality that people think I have.”

The statement was heard as an attack on effeminate gays from one of the “straight-acting” gays, which has become a sort of “in-tribe” issue within the LGBT community.

I should add a disclaimer here: I did attend acting school where I did dance (if not “prance”) in the streets (and the Broadway) as I enjoyed a sense of freedom about living out my life exactly who I was and still am. My father never had an issue with me being one kind of person or another, except succeeding at life. I thank MY dad for that.

My personal opinion? I don’t think Tovey meant to disparage gays who may not be as “manly” as he considers himself. I think the statement was inartful, but not hateful.

I do believe that when you live on one side of the spectrum, it’s hard to understand the other side. In his comment it’s clear that Tovey is glad he didn’t turn out “really effeminate.” But the comment comes across as a passive-aggressive swipe at those who are; a lot like some of the joking that goes on regarding “bottom shaming.” As if being masculine (or a top) is preferable or more manly.

When folks put those ideas out there (which they are certainly allowed to do) it becomes a line of demarcation. It separates us. It says “masculine > effeminate.” Or, along the same lines “top > bottom.”

Is Tovey the “worst gay ever?” No. Sadly, we have better (worse?) candidates for that title.

And no, I don’t think this was an intentional slight to gay men less “masculine” than Tovey.

But I do wonder – where exactly is the line that would have clearly defined this as “gay on gay” bullying?

Tovey took to his Twitter account to address the tempest:

I surrender. You got me. I’m sat baffled and saddened that a mis-fired inarticulate quote of mine, has branded me worst gay ever

If you feel I have personally let you down, I’m sorry, that was never my intention

I’m proud to be who I am and proud for others We’re in this together, I want you to know whatever you think I meant, I didn’t

I’m gonna ride this out, and one day we will all look back on this moment with a half smile of fascination and amusement

Until that day I’m gonna carry on being me #lowersflag x