Idina Menzel Responds To New Year’s Eve Criticism

I actually wasn’t going to post about the “thing” this week regarding the marvelous Idina Menzel, but the more I thought about it, I realize I do have something to say.

The short version of the “thing” is that on New Year’s Eve, Idina Menzel (star of Broadway’s RENT, WICKED, AIDA), appeared on television and sang her big, huge Academy Award-winning song from Disney’s Frozen (the highest grossing animated film of all time), “Let It Go.”

This occurred in freezing cold weather while she is still starring on Broadway 8 shows a week in her Tony Award-nominated role in IF/THEN.

Unfortunately, as happens with live performances – made even more difficult in the cold and near the stroke of midnight – the end of the song didn’t end with the ‘perfection’ Idina normally brings to the table. And so, folks in the Twitterverse apparently took her to task for not being ‘perfect.’

Pardon the pun, but some Twitter users couldn’t “let it go.”

Never one to make excuses for her work (nor should she), Menzel did address the “thing” on her social media by posting a quote from an interview she had given months before,

The full text follows:

“There are about 3 million notes in a two-and-a-half-hour musical; being a perfectionist, it took me a long time to realize that if I’m hitting 75 percent of them, I’m succeeding. Performing isn’t only about the acrobatics and the high notes: It’s staying in the moment, connecting with the audience in an authentic way, and making yourself real to them through the music. I am more than the notes I hit, and that’s how I try to approach my life. You can’t get it all right all the time, but you can try your best. If you’ve done that, all that’s left is to accept your shortcomings and have the courage to try to overcome them.”

I think that’s the perfect answer to the silly criticism directed at the luminous Miss Menzel.

I’ve enjoyed her LIVE performances for almost two decades. One of the hallmarks of Idina’s work is that the material she’s made famous (and in turn, has made her famous) is the stuff of roller-coaster rides and high-end gymnastics – both vocal and emotional. We’re not talking about “Tea For Two.”

What Idina does so very, very well is commit to heart-stopping performances 100 percent. She walks the tightrope. And that’s what makes her such an exciting artist.

(p.s. to anyone who wants to criticize – get your butt up in front of millions of people over and over and show me how “perfect” you are every time.)

The thrill of live performances is the fact that sometimes, we fall, we crack, we trip, we miss the edge. And then we get back up and keep going.

Ask Greg Louganis, who famously hit his head on the springboard in front of the entire world at the 1988 Seoul Olympics. He recovered and minutes later returned to earn the highest single score in that qualifying round, and win the gold medal.

When I was in my early 20s, I was cast as an actor and dancer in one of the earliest companies of the hit show CATS. As the “magical Mr. Mistoffelees” I performed a highly technical, physically challenging dance solo in the second act. To be honest, it may have been beyond my technical prowess in the beginning. The pressure of the dance wore on me mentally, but performing the dance for over 800 audiences taught me much about how I judge myself and my work. And yes, I rose to the occasion.

Was I perfect every time? No. But, the few times I might have been less than perfect doing turns “in second” in front of 2,000 people taught me much about (here it is again) “letting go.”

I won’t post Idina’s NYE performance – I’m not going to feed the senseless frenzy. But you can watch the NYE performance on YouTube if so inclined.

I’m a huge fan of Idina. For her immense talent; for her depth and sensitivity to her material.

And, for inspiring so many of us to have the courage/nerve/chutzpah to keep getting up.

Forward.

Courage, Character & Clarity: A Young Texan’s Coming Out Story

James Alexander

Twenty year-old James Alexander, a student at the University of Houston, has shared his coming out story in a moving and compelling essay for LGBTQNation.

It’s really a must read for folks who realize the depth of our fears and concerns when figuring out how and when to come out.

James beautifully chronicles the moment he came out on Facebook to his high school friends and the support he received; and the long and painful journey he and his parents shared in accepting his sexuality.

Just an excerpt from James’ story:

My first week in community college I made several friends and kept contact with those I had made at the University as well. I went to class, talked with friends, and then I’d go home to study.

My second week of school I decided to join the LGBT alliance to meet new people who may have been in the same position as me. The club became a haven for me. I felt safe and validated there, but at home things started to get increasingly worse. My father, mother and brother-in-law made several homophobic remarks on a regular basis that ate away at my self-esteem which became apparent after several weeks.

I kept doing the same routine: school, study, sleep, repeat. Sleep became increasingly cumbersome as my mental health started to deteriorate. I started having dreams where I’d speak, but not be heard. Over many of this reoccurring dream I would speak to the crowds of people around me in an ever increasing volume and received no response.

Then, my dreams started to get violent. I remember waking up from a very graphic and brutal nightmare and then knew I had two choices: come out, or sit by while my mental health plummeted. I chose to come out.

Like James, I grew up in conservative Texas. I understand much of the mindset and opinions that are so pervasive throughout the state’s culture.

But, I was lucky to have a father who supported my dream of being an actor, let me attend the best school I could get into (even if it was across the country), and when I did finally address my sexuality – he barely blinked.

With all the progress the LGBT community has made in recent years, I think we may have made a mental leap that misses the reality that there are still difficult coming out stories.  Everyone doesn’t get a hug and an ice cream cone in these huge life moments.

For some – like James – coming out is a slow, but forward process.  For others, like Daniel Pierce in Georgia, whose coming out went viral when a video of the event documented verbal and physical abuse, it’s still a very emotionally raw life event.

The good news is we have strong, courageous men like James and Daniel, who had the clarity of heart to not only stand up for themselves, but share their stories.  And in their stories, other young people will find strength and self-confidence.

I urge you to read James’ essay at LGBTQNation.

And remember National Coming Out Day is October 11th. If you are closeted – at any age – and feel you need to talk to someone, reach out to folks who are always there, like at The Trevor Project. Or hell, email me here if you want to share.

Thanks to James – one more important journey that shows it does get better.

The bravest skateboarder in the world

Meet Tommy Carroll. He has been skating since he was ten, but has been blind since the age of two…

“I think what’s fun about skateboarding is – when you get something kind of new and scary. When you finally land that scary thing and you feel that tension release. That’s one of the better adrenaline rushes you’ll ever experience.”

(via Buzzfeed)

TV: The Loving Story

Filmmaker Nancy Buirski uses never-before-seen footage, photos, and present day interview to create an utterly fascinating, bittersweet documentary about Mildred and Richard Loving, a mixed-race couple who were legally married in Washington D.C. in 1958 but were arrested in their home state of Virginia and convicted of the felony crime of miscegenation.

The parallels between the landmark 1967 Supreme Court case Loving v. Virginia and the fight for marriage equality today are undeniable. Forced to flee their home state of Virginia and live in exile in Washington, D.C . — or risk being arrested again for having violated the state’s Racial Integrity Act of 1924 — Mildred and Richard Loving, a mixed-race couple, took the only route they could find to get back home: through the courts.

Buirski leaves it to viewers to draw parallels to today’s battle to legalize gay marriage in the U.S., but they’re unmistakable.

“The Loving Story” premieres on HBO February 14.

CNN anchor Don Lemon on coming out

This is a very brave interview by CNN primetime anchor Don Lemon, who came out via a New York Times article that profiles the journalist and his upcoming memoir.

In his upcoming book he publicly discusses his homosexuality, what it’s like to come out gay as a black man and growing up as a child of abuse.

His dedication of the book is to the New Jersey teen who succumbed to suicide, Tyler Clementi. This is his first on-​air interview since the Times article.