Josh Barro: ‘Will Portman and the duty to come out’

Bloomberg writer (and all-around smart guy) writes today about Sen. Rob Portman’s reversal on marriage equality based in great part due to his son’s coming out.

Barro recounts how having an older family member (“Uncle Frankie”) “come out,” for better or worse, made the prospect easier for Barro.

And for those reasons, Barro feels that Will Portman’s “coming out” was not only important for himself, but for all the other ‘Will Portmans’ out there who need to see the domino effect: every time a gay or lesbian person demands acceptance, they make it easier for others to do the same.

Writes Barro:

“Coming out may have been more daunting for Will Portman because his father was a Republican officeholder with an anti-gay voting record; or maybe he had good reasons to expect his dad to react in exactly the way he did. But while his father’s position may have made coming out harder, it also made it all the more obligatory, because of the possibility it would lead to the outcome that we saw last week. He was given an unusual opportunity to use his coming out to materially change the prospects for gay rights and gay acceptance in America, and he took it.

“And that will make it easier for teenagers not operating from a position of privilege to be themselves without hiding. There are a lot of teenagers for whom, unlike Will Portman or me, coming out entails risk of familial rejection, homelessness and violence. There is a reason organizations such as the Ali Forney Center, which provides housing and support to homeless LGBT youth in New York City, need to exist. Making public policy less anti-gay will help these youth but arguably more importantly, demands for social acceptance of gays and lesbians at the elite level trickle down into mass attitudes and make it less likely that families will reject their gay children in the first place.”

Read Josh’s entire essay at Bloomberg.com

Matt Fishel – “Radio-friendly Pop Song”

Love, love, love this!

Over the past few years, London-based out singer-songwriter Matt Fishel has created music videos that have been admittedly autobiographical in their creation: young gay love and nostalgia (“The First Time”); repression, tradition, marriage, religion and celebration (“Testament“); and now Fishel’s about to come out with his new single “Radio-Friendly Pop Song” based on his relationship with the music industry as an openly gay artist.

From Fishel on the new song:

I’m really excited about this song and I hope you enjoy it. It’s about my (and others’) experiences of the music and entertainment industries as an out gay artist, and the often-apparent homophobia that underpins them.

Radio-Friendly Pop Song is the 5th single from my debut album – ‘Not Thinking Straight’ – which will be released internationally in 3 weeks time, on 8th April. It’s a blend of heavy guitars, big vocal harmonies and anthemic choruses, and contains 13 tracks that deal with themes and issues surrounding gay life, relationships and experiences.

The song is available for download on Amazon and iTunes.

(via Towleroad)

Alt-folk singer Michelle Shocked: “Tell people that Michelle Shocked says ‘God hates fags'”

Alternative folk singer Michelle Shocked decided to end her career last night when she told a San Francisco concert audience, “You can go on Twitter and tell people that Michelle Shocked says ‘God hates fags’.” 

According to reports, the audience pretty much cleared the venue after the anti-gay rant. 

Although many in the music press have often identified Shocked as lesbian herself,  it would seem that assumption has now been proved wrong, unless she’s gone “ex-gay.”

Happy birthday Vanessa Williams

Happy happy birthday to the fab and fantastic Vanessa Williams!

I’d love to somehow work in something clever about “saving the best for last” but clearly Vanessa is still busy doing so many great things, she’s not anywhere near “the last” of anything.

When I mention famous people on The Randy Report, it’s generally in reference to news items or people I’ve had the chance to meet. But when I mention Vanessa, it’s always with love. Love for a great friend of over 30 years now. We may not see each other for months, but when we do it’s always in “the comfort zone” if I may steal from one of her hit songs.

Vanessa is still the fun, smart person she was when we met as college freshman. She’s a great artist, a great LGBT ally, a GREAT mother and much more.

Here’s just a few more examples of her musical gifts.  And then, of course, there are her acting gigs that have entertained us all for decades on Broadway, film and television.

Celebrate!  More wine!

John Boehner, John McCain not changing position on marriage equality

Although Ohio Sen. Rob Portman made public his “evolution” on marriage equality last week, many of the GOP stalwarts are sticking to their guns on the issue.

House Speaker John Boehner, appearing yesterday on ABC’s This Week: “Rob [Portman] is a great friend and a long-time ally. And I appreciate that he’s decided to change his views on this.I believe that marriage is the union of one man and one woman. It’s what I grew up with. It’s what I believe. It’s what my church teaches me. And I can’t imagine that position would ever change.”

Sen. John McCain agrees: “I respect anyone else’s decision and we all learn in life and grow and mature. I have changed my position on other issues in my life, but on this one, I had not contemplated changing my position.”

Madonna presents Anderson Cooper with the GLAAD Vito Russo Award

Madonna, dressed in a Boy Scouts uniform, presented Anderson Cooper with the Vito Russo Award at the GLAAD Awards last night. Above is her entire 12 minute introduction speech.

The Vito Russo Award is presented to an openly LGBT media professional who has made a significant difference in promoting equality.

From Anderson’s acceptance speech:

As a gay person, it’s important for me to remember that all of us come from a community whose stories have for too long been forgotten and ignored, a community whose lives have for too long been ridiculed or misrepresented, a community that in spite of all that has found ways to love and to laugh and to care about one another, a community that has found ways to stand tall and stand up and make ourselves visible.

I know that I’m only able to be on this stage because of generations of gay people who have come before and some of their names are known, but so many have lived and died in silence… There lives never even acknowledged, their love hidden in the shadows, hands furtively held in the dark…

I’ve had many blessings in my life and being gay is certainly one of the greatest blessings. It has allowed me to love and be loved; it has allowed me to open my head and open my heart in ways that I never could have predicted. The ability to love one another, The ability to love another person is one of God’s greatest gifts and I thank God every day for enabling me to give and share love with people in my life, with my family, my friends, and my partner Benjamin.

Boy Culture’s Matthew Rettenmund shot video of Anderson Cooper accepting the award.