Billy Porter: Tips For Living Your Best Life

Billy Porter

On his way to LaLa Land and the 2019 Golden Globe Awards where he is nominated for “Best Performance by an Actor in a Television Series” for his star turn in the FX series, Pose, Billy Porter dropped by BuzzfeedsCocoa Butter to share his ‘Seven Tips To Live By.’

Having survived highs and lows in the business of show for over 30 years, Mr. Porter knows of what he speaks.

1. “Choose yourself, save yourself, bet on yourself!”

How is someone going to believe in you if you don’t? Enough said.


2. “Dress for the job you want, not the job you have!”

Billy adds with a smile, “So if you’re wondering why I’m always turning it with the clothing and the looks, darling, that is why – I have goals.”


3. “Don’t wait for anyone to give you permission to practice your art!”

Porter told me once that Tony Award-winning stage director George C. Wolfe shared this little bon mot with him in the early 2000s when he was an Artist in Residence at the Public Theatre in NYC. “You need to be practicing it always, every day, every moment you get. People usually ain’t listening, but sometimes they do. You’ve got to be ready…when it’s time.”


4. “Be on time!”

Porter explains exactly what that means to him: “Fifteen minutes early is on time, on time is late, and late is unacceptable. The doors will be locked!”


5. “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.”

With a glint in his eye, the 49-year-old leans into the camera and continues, “Y’all know what I’m talking about; we got a lot of people we could be talking about.”


6. “Be of service.”

A wider purpose adds dimension to your work. “When your intention is service, everything else will work itself out,” says Porter.


7. “Mean what you say and say what you mean – and deliver. Be impeccable with your word.”

Make sure you watch the 2019 Golden Globe Awards tonight on NBC (8pm EST – 5pm PST).

You know I’ll be cheering for Billy!

(h/t Cocoa Butter)

Radio Show: Save Your Money And Your Sanity During The Holidays

Money and sanity saving tips for the Christmas holidays

One of my favorite radio shows to do – HOLIDAY TIPS!

In this episode of The Randy Report on BlogTalkRadio, food editor and lifestyle expert Candi Fox, of Candi & Company, brings lots of tips, tricks and ideas to help you during the holiday season.

Whether it’s saving money, saving time, or saving your sanity – Candi brings lots of new ways to help you out.

Plus, we discuss making sure that your holiday season is exactly that – YOUR holiday season.

Grab your jingle bells and let’s go!

How To Survive A Confrontational Cop

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If you missed it earlier, you’ve got to see this video. Wow! Via Matthew Cooke
Posted by Filming Cops on Thursday, July 9, 2015

The vast majority of police officers are great at their job.

But, as the world has seen via more and more cell phone videos, there are a few cops who lose sight of their original objectives.

Everyone of every color, age and sexual orientation should watch this.

If you encounter a confrontational or agitated officer, be respectful, keep these tips in mind and lose any sense of ego if you want to stay safe.

North Carolina: Generous $1,000 tip on $14 tab

I waited tables in NYC during my early days as an actor.

It was humbling; it was a learning experience; a lot of things happened in the restaurants where I worked.

This. Never. Happened. To. Me.

How to fold a fitted sheet

Ok, so – I knew how to do this, but saw online a ton of people did not.

Living in NYC for many years with my best friend Carlye, the laundry was my responsibility most of the time since I was either working as an actor or looking for work as an actor. In other words, I had the free time to do so.

And when you don’t have a lot of money, doing laundry and the dishes always made me feel like I had something “new” once I washed them.

(Not really, but you know what I mean. You find your kicks where you can when you’re poor.)

I will say Jill Cooper from LivingOnADime.com makes it look super-easy.  I’m not so elegant folding the fitted sheet but I get it done.

I’m curious – did everyone know this?