When Holding Hands Is New + Budapest Pride Is A Go + More News

Gay men holding hands

Happy Friday! Some news stories for you as we head into the weekend:

Queerty: A gay man writes to “Ask Jake” for advice about his perfect “10” boyfriend – perfect except the bf likes holding hands in public which makes the conservative-raised man self-conscious.

LGBTQ Nation: An evangelical Christian man in the UK who sued the government for “religious discrimination” after his government employer refused to remove rainbow flags during Pride Month had his lawsuit dismissed by a tribunal. Continue reading “When Holding Hands Is New + Budapest Pride Is A Go + More News”

UK Government Announces Initiative To Improve Lives Of LGBT People

The UK government has announced a new initiative to help improve the lives of LGBTQ people

A new survey of 108,000 LGBTQ people in the UK has cast a new light on the discrimination that gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people face each day.

Among the findings:

• More than two-thirds of respondents admitted they don’t hold hands with their same-sex partner in public our of fear

• 2% of the 108,000 had undergone conversion therapy; 5% had been offered the discredited treatment

• 40% of respondents had experienced anti-LGBTQ hate incidents; of those 9 out of 10 were unreported

• 23% admitted they had experienced anti-LGBTQ animus in the workplace

• 70% avoid living openly as LGBTQ to avoid negative reactions

• 67% of transgender respondents say they avoid being open about their gender identity due to fear of how others would react

In response to the findings, a new initiative has now been announced titled, “LGBT Action Plan – Improving the lives of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people” which aims to explore “legislative and non-legislative options to prohibit promoting, offering or conducting conversion therapy.”

Medical experts around the world including the World Health Organization, the American Psychological Association, the American Psychiatric Association and almost every other professional therapeutic group in America, have denounced the practice of so-called “conversion” or “ex-gay” therapy as inappropriate, unethical, harmful and, in some cases, can lead to suicide.

The approach of “conversion therapy’ is based on the premise that LGBTQ people are suffering from a mental condition that needs to be ‘fixed.” The World Health Organization declassified homosexuality a mental condition in 1992.

In the United States, 13 states plus Washington, D.C. and over 30 local municipalities ban the harmful practice for minors.

Reacting to the survey’s results, British Prime Minister Theresa May issued a statement saying he felt “struck by just how many respondents said they cannot be open about their sexual orientation or avoid holding hands with their partner in public for fear of a negative reaction.”

“No one should ever have to hide who they are or who they love,” the UK leader said. “This LGBT action plan will set out concrete steps to deliver real and lasting change across society, from health and education to tackling discrimination and addressing the burning injustices that LGBT people face.”

Ruth Hunt, chief executive of the British LGBT rights group Stonewall, hailed the new initiative by the government as “an important first step” but added that it needs to lead to “tangible change.”

“Some people will be shocked by the findings. But for anyone who is LGBT, or has a family member or friend who is, these results will be sadly recognizable,” she said in a statement. “Laws have improved and attitudes have changed but our society still treats LGBT people like second-class citizens.”

Video: When You Feel Like Letting Go #HoldTight

Sweet video from New Zealand and Australia touches on that seemingly innocuous moment in life – when you want to hold hands with the person you love.

Straight people do it without thinking.

I have never held my husband’s hand in public without at least a tiny “something” crossing my mind.

Just about every LGBT person I know has done that “thing” where you let go as you approach a crowd, enter your parent’s house or feel the possibility of danger.

Now, to be clear, yes I hold my husband’s hand. But I hate that it crosses my mind to let go.

The only text in this 90 second video: “When you feel like letting go #HoldTight”

Hell yes.

#Forward

New Ad Tells Same-Sex Couples To “Hold Tight”

Australia and New Zealand Banking Group (ANZ) is responsible for this new ad which highlights the anxiety many LGBT couples may experience when engaging in the simple act of holding hands

The message from ANZ?

“Hold tight.”

I can admit that hubby Michael and I rarely hold hands having lived a lifetime of fear of being gay-bashed.

I’m not proud of that fact, but thanks to societal pressures it almost seems like a “forced” display of affection for us now. Maybe that will change…

Thanks to ANZ for sending this message.

Watch below.

Over Half Of Gay Men In UK Afraid To Hold Hands In Public

Holding hands with hubby Michael at a concert

A new study conducted by Stonewall asked 5,000 members of the LGBTQ community in Britain about hate crimes and discrimination.

The results may, or may not, surprise you:

• 38% of all respondents reported being afraid to hold their partner’s hand; that number jumped to 58% among gay men

• 21% have experienced a hate crime or incident due to their sexual orientation and/or gender identity in the last 12 months

• 81% who experienced a hate crime or incident didn’t report it to the police

• 41% have experienced a hate crime or incident because of their gender identity in the last 12 months and one in six LGB people, who aren’t trans (16 per cent), have experienced a hate crime or incident due to their sexual orientation in the same period

• 10% have experienced homophobic, biphobic or transphobic abuse online directed towards them personally in the last month

A few years ago, a straight friend of mine was surprised when I casually mentioned I rarely hold hubby Michael’s hand in public. We just didn’t feel that safe.

That anxiety slowly crept into our private life, and I’m now aware that we almost never hold hands at all. Societal pressures basically beat it out of us.

The above pic is from a Brad Paisley concert we attended a few years ago. It’s one of the few times I recall holding hands in public.

Donald Trump’s Odd 25-Second Long Handshake With French President Macron

Folks are talking about this awkward 25-second handshake between President Trump and French President Macron.

And it is rather odd.

Not only does Trump not let go of Macron’s hand for an uncomfortable length of time, he then leans over and kisses and hugs Mrs. Macron without letting go of the French president’s hand.

It comes across like two couples on their first wife-swapping date or something.

Lisbon: Adorable Gay Couple Posts Their Own “Social Experiment”

Adorable YouTube couple Lorenzo and Pedro grew frustrated after the recent videos documenting social experiments in Russia and Ukraine where gay couples walked in public holding hands.

In the videos, the different couples were verbally and physically threatened.

So Lorenzo and Pedro decided to see how their capitol city of Lisbon, Portugal, would react.

And the results were very, very positive! After a few days of shooting throughout the city holding hands, they even bumped it up a bit and shared a few quick PDAs.

While there were what the couple felt were “curious” looks (which Lorenzo admits could have been due to the fact he’s 6’5″ and Pedro is 5’7″), there was no violence, so ugly stares, no verbal abuse at all.

I love how they sum up the experience: “Always walk in public with pride.”

I spent about two months in Lisbon as an actor some years ago while touring with CHICAGO The Musical, and I can attest to how friendly and warm the city can be.

Bravo to Lorenzo and Pedro for proving the world CAN be civilized.

Panti Bliss At TEDx Event: “All The Little Things”

Must watch video here.

This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences.

Panti Bliss shares her experience of the little, everyday things that can have a huge impact on the well-being of gay people.

Panti expresses her thoughts on navigating a world in which the simple act of holding hands can be a political statement in itself.

Partial transcript via Towleroad:

“Everyday I am jealous of straight people because that tiny intimate expression of affection has never once been mine…

I am jealous of that because gay people do not get to hold hands in public without first considering the risk. We look around to see where are we, who’s around, what kind of place is it… are there bunches of lads outside a pub?

I’m 45 years old and I have never once casually, comfortably, carelessly held hands with a partner in public.

I’m 45 and I’m fed up of putting up so I’m not anymore.

I’m 45 years old and I’m not putting up anymore because I don’t have the energy anymore. Putting up is exhausting.

I’m 45 years old and I’m not putting up anymore because I don’t have the patience anymore.

I was born 6 months before the Stonewall riots and you have had 45 years to work out that despite appearances, I am just as ordinary, just as unremarkable, and just as human as you are.

I’m 45 years old and I’m not asking anymore. I am just being… human being.”

Like millions of gays and lesbians, I feel the exact same frustration. With so many homophobes using the phrase “I don’t want it ‘in my face,’ the simple act of holding hands is pretty much alien to me.

I’ve been with my husband Michael for over 20 years, and it really doesn’t cross our minds to hold hands. The world pretty much beat that out of us.

Watch Panti Bliss’ fantastic speech below: