Pretty cut and dried, and simple.
The Obama administration clearly stated that DOMA will not be defended in appeals courts, but it will be enforced. It is still the law of the land.
For anyone confused by what you might hear elsewhere, here’s a clear statement of what is and what isn’t.
And regarding the marriage component, I guess Obama does have some catching up to do if he wants to speak to the issue of marriage in the way that serial adulterer Gingrich does. It’s almost laughable that Gingrich speaks to Obama “swearing on a Bible” when Gingrich swore on a Bible himself a few times. In a church. To his former wives.